Hey Christians Forum Site,
Usually I post this in another family issue forums. In the past I've received good help from this forum so I want to continue that trend with this thread.
Some quick objective context.
My older brother isn't the greatest of people. Some may even call him selfish and not caring. Basically, in the last three years, his life was out of order. He was unemployed. My dad was trying to help him get to school. With the free time he has, he watches DVDs and spends minimal effort to improve his situation. Also, he contributes minimally to the household, ie. doing chores, giving lifts to my parents. And yup, he doesn't go to church.
Blame it on whatever, bad influences, laziness, dejection in life. The point is, he can always be a better person of himself. He is 30 and I'm 27. And those in the forum know me, I'm very blessed.
Okay, now the situation. My dad isn't in a good financial state. Not being one to take money from his own son, I've been feeding my auntie money so that she can pass it to my dad. Now, I've just been asked by my auntie to give 1.5x what I've been giving to cover for my brother who is now and for the past three years, out of job.
What should I do?
Either, I be the good Christian and give more than what I've been already giving. Or two, I decline and finally get my brother to see the grave circumstances of his predication - someone who doesn't spend the least bit of effort to take care of himself and his family.
I don't think I'm entirely in the wrong in adopting the less loving approach. My intent is that in his most dire circumstances, one where he figures he can't even help his own dad, would my brother see that life is about responsibilities and ultimately, you need to pick your life up.
Any ideas?
Nijikon
Usually I post this in another family issue forums. In the past I've received good help from this forum so I want to continue that trend with this thread.
Some quick objective context.
My older brother isn't the greatest of people. Some may even call him selfish and not caring. Basically, in the last three years, his life was out of order. He was unemployed. My dad was trying to help him get to school. With the free time he has, he watches DVDs and spends minimal effort to improve his situation. Also, he contributes minimally to the household, ie. doing chores, giving lifts to my parents. And yup, he doesn't go to church.
Blame it on whatever, bad influences, laziness, dejection in life. The point is, he can always be a better person of himself. He is 30 and I'm 27. And those in the forum know me, I'm very blessed.
Okay, now the situation. My dad isn't in a good financial state. Not being one to take money from his own son, I've been feeding my auntie money so that she can pass it to my dad. Now, I've just been asked by my auntie to give 1.5x what I've been giving to cover for my brother who is now and for the past three years, out of job.
What should I do?
Either, I be the good Christian and give more than what I've been already giving. Or two, I decline and finally get my brother to see the grave circumstances of his predication - someone who doesn't spend the least bit of effort to take care of himself and his family.
I don't think I'm entirely in the wrong in adopting the less loving approach. My intent is that in his most dire circumstances, one where he figures he can't even help his own dad, would my brother see that life is about responsibilities and ultimately, you need to pick your life up.
Any ideas?
Nijikon