I am 22 years old. Moved back to parents a month ago. I am wondering what is the proper response to advice from a parent, when I think I am making a Christian choice, but my mom opposes. For example, I want to start a job. She thinks more than a hour drive is too far and advices not to take the job. What should I do in a situation like this?
Gabriela Elizalde
First, since you asked for the Biblical response. In the Bible, a single daughter lived under her father's roof, and I'm pretty sure obedience was expected of her.
Currently in the United States though, you are considered an adult in the eyes of the law. The fact that you are living under their roof complicates things. If you are paying for rent and food, it is different than if you are living there for free.
I have a 21 year old daughter. I would want her to honor our wisdom and consider our advice, but I don't think I would insist that she obey us.
I know some people who live in Annapolis Maryland and commute to work in DC in 90 minutes of traffic or worse - one way! These are high paying government jobs, and it's too expensive to live closer to Washington DC.
More than an hour drive when gas is over $3 a gallon is very expensive.
I can understand why your mom would have the opinion she does.
You have to do the math.
When you count the cost of gas, and the cost of wear and tear on your car,
and the time spent just in commuting, is the income worth the sacrifice?
Can your car take the beating?
If it's such a great job, can you move closer so you won't have to commute so far?
Aren't there jobs closer to home?
Have you prayed and asked God to bring you a good job close to home.
I am very conservative. I would never even consider taking a job that was so far away, but I know a lot of people do it. They feel they have to.
It would be wise to seek the advice of some other adults who know you.