unfaithful wife..

Discussion in 'Answers' started by Unregistered, Jul 4, 2009.

  1. unfaithful wife..

    I married my husband about 8 years ago...I have three beautiful children..I have been brought up with strong christian values...my husband was brought up catholic but has been open to being born again...About 5 years ago we moved to vegas and I have left my husband three times and went back...standing on the terms that he wasnt meant for me and we didnt belong together.....not fully able to fill out my divorce papers..any who..Ive been dating someone for a while who is christian and loves my three children...Recently i just moved in with him and found out i am pregnant with his baby...However, Im feeling convictions...still being married i feel the Lord wants me to go back with my husband....? what do you think? Any bible verse to state what the lord wants......Im so confused...Oh and my husband has always had open doors even now when im pregnant with someone elses baby...
  2. lets see here, strong christian values...but you left him and had a affair.
    the boyfriend is a good christian man.....took another mans wife, shacked up together,got you pregnant...hmmm

    I really dont think you would want to hear what i think.
    ask the lord what he he thinks, you need to get a head check, you have to get youre life in order before you jump in and out of peoples live and destroying everything,LIKE YOUR KIDS.
    I dont know if this will get posted, i know its a little harsh but just because iam christian does not mean iam a pansey, and i will speak my mind.
    ask the lord what to do ,ask for forgiveness, get your familys life straight
  3. You know what the right thing to do is and you really do not need to be told you were messing up.

    It is time to get on your knees before God and seek His face for forgiveness, inner healing and restoration of your marriage,
    many blessings in His Name. brother Larry.
  4. seems you need closure,who do you love.?simple really.
  5. While I do understand where you are coming from Mike I personally would have to go with the Word of God in this and all my life situations.
  6. she can,t carry on the way she is.she has already left him.maybe she should pray for guidance.she will probably know the answer anyway.
  7. My Sister in Christ:

    First let me say that I'm not here to judge you, for we have all fallen short of the glory of the Lord at one time or another in our lives. I'm not here to judge you, but I would like to give you a few things to think about.

    Can you think back to when you married your husband and why you married him? Can you remember the love you shared? Can you remember how you felt every time one of those tiny blessings were put in your arms as your husband looked on, so proud for what you had accomplished? Not one, but three precious children. Those are blessings my Sister. Can you remember how that felt?

    Unfortunatey, sometimes in our marriage there is a point where we start taking one another for granted and sadly, the lack of care and love in a marriage can make it easier for one or the other to walk into an affair. You see a marriage requires as much care as anything else in our lives, if not more. It is something both parties have to work at. A lot of times one or both stop doing that, which almost always leads to the demise of that marriage.

    This is how marriage is supposed to work in my opinion. When I fell in love with my husband and I took those vows... I meant them. So many people say the vows and then never think of them again. He is the very least person in this world that I want to hurt and vice versa.

    Didn't you promise to love him for better or worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer?

    I think from reading your words, that you already know what the answer is. I truly feel that your heart will never find peace as long as you're not living in the Word of God. Since you've said you have a strong religious upbringing, you do not need anyone to tell you that you are not living in the Word of God.

    No matter what your husband has or hasn't done to make you want to keep your vows, you will only be tortured more by living contrary to how God wants you to.

    You say you have left him 3 times in 3 years. My goodness the pain that this must be causing him. Put yourself in his shoes. How would it feel if it were you this was happening to? An emotional roller coaster, never knowing when his wife and children will leave him again. You say he has an "open door". This tells me just how much he loves you. Do you know how many women would give anything for someone to love them like this? To love in spite of the continual hurt? To be willing to take you back even though you are pregnant by another man's child? My advice to you would be to pray very hard about this. To ask God his forgiveness and then ask your husband's. Then, do not walk back to your husband, but run.

    One thing you must always keep in mind. That if a man will cheat with another's man's wife, what else will he do if he tires of you? As for him being a Christian, I pray too that he will also ask God's forgiveness for what he's done.

    My Dear Sister, I pray you are able to break loose from the stranglehold that sin has on your life. I also pray that you are able to find help for your emotions, and prayerfully your marriage, so that you are able to find ways to cope without participating in something that is sinful and hurts you, and especially God’s heart like this does. Please know that my heart and my prayers are with you.

    Blessings, Cheri
  8. It seems like you already know it was wrong.
    First, if you are not a child of God, you must first give your life to him. You stated that you were brought up with strong christian values. But do you yourself have a personal relationship with God through His Son Jesus Christ? We are not saved through values but through God's Son Jesus Christ.

    Second, ask God to forgive you of all your Sins and then forgive yourself.

    Take this situation to God and let him handle it. Only God can straighten this up; and, only God can give you the words that you need to hear. We never get too far from God that He cannot reach us. His Grace is wonderful.

    Seek God first.
  9. What i don't understand about you is that you say you have been brought up with strong christian values...If you do have these values and they are important to you i can't understand why you would do that in the first place...
  10. No solace from me

    Adultry is an act of unfaithfulness not only to your husband but to God as well.
    Your conviction is by the Holy Spirit,you know what you must do. Go back to your husband and be reconciled by God's conviction of this sin and be saved again through Jesus Christ your lord and God. This is a very serious matter for your salvation and not only that how could you do this to your kids? May you choose love and faith over self.

    brother in Christ rodger.
  11. Read Chapter 7 in Matthew

    You really should not be posting on a Christian forum because your actions are not Christian at all. You have NO RIGHT to judge this woman. I do not condone her behavior but who are you to cast stone. Are you sinless? You may not have had an affair but sin is sin and you aren't the judge. She is obviously convicted and seeking advice in the right place - from Christians. Sadly, there are "supposed" Christians like you who in an effort to not look like a Pansy end up looking like you have no hint of Jesus in you. I'd say you are the one who needs to ask the Lord for forgiveness.

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