Question...for christian mothers raising daughters. Do you raise your daughters to be mothers and submit to a man who will be their husbands?
I was thinking to how me and my sister were raised, and we we, like most children of immigrant families were just raised to get a good education and work for a living. I dont think getting married and have families of our own ever came into the equation. After all who was there to marry? As unbelievers christian men wouldnt marry us, and we didnt have any prospects or land or anything. My mum is not a christian (yet?) so I dont know any different.
Now that we have careers and independnce (well relatively) we do everything a man could do, why would a man want to marry someone who is ok on her own? I didnt realise this til, later when mum was bascially telling my older sister to hurry up and get married. This a bit rich from a mother who never encouraged us daughters to find a husband. We spent all our time and energy learning and developing ourselves, not learning how to please a man. We didnt need to learn any dosmetic arts cos theres no money in that! And if we work full time, how are we expected to just give that up to marry someone and have children, if the job is our calling.
So I dont really get that.
When I became born again it seemd like everyone my age who was a christian was now a mother with children, as if thats meant to be the only calling a christian woman has. But it also seemed everyone who was a mother was just that frustrated with their children and being a mother, doing housework and running after them yet having no time for God. The bible even says that it better for a woman to remain unmarried because they only have to please the Lord, not the Lord AND her husband and her children. Yes they may turn 18 and then leave home, but if you have children dont you have them for life? You cant just leave them or give them up or do you at a certain age...?
So my question is how do christian mothers raise christian girls. Do you tell them to be careful around boys, or wait, or go with the first one that asks...? Or do you say you need to stop thinking about boys and concentrate on your studies because noones going to look after you, and you need to earn your own living. Am a bit confused over this. Its a bit late for me now, but, maybe it will help someone else who is raising a daughter.
I was thinking to how me and my sister were raised, and we we, like most children of immigrant families were just raised to get a good education and work for a living. I dont think getting married and have families of our own ever came into the equation. After all who was there to marry? As unbelievers christian men wouldnt marry us, and we didnt have any prospects or land or anything. My mum is not a christian (yet?) so I dont know any different.
Now that we have careers and independnce (well relatively) we do everything a man could do, why would a man want to marry someone who is ok on her own? I didnt realise this til, later when mum was bascially telling my older sister to hurry up and get married. This a bit rich from a mother who never encouraged us daughters to find a husband. We spent all our time and energy learning and developing ourselves, not learning how to please a man. We didnt need to learn any dosmetic arts cos theres no money in that! And if we work full time, how are we expected to just give that up to marry someone and have children, if the job is our calling.
So I dont really get that.
When I became born again it seemd like everyone my age who was a christian was now a mother with children, as if thats meant to be the only calling a christian woman has. But it also seemed everyone who was a mother was just that frustrated with their children and being a mother, doing housework and running after them yet having no time for God. The bible even says that it better for a woman to remain unmarried because they only have to please the Lord, not the Lord AND her husband and her children. Yes they may turn 18 and then leave home, but if you have children dont you have them for life? You cant just leave them or give them up or do you at a certain age...?
So my question is how do christian mothers raise christian girls. Do you tell them to be careful around boys, or wait, or go with the first one that asks...? Or do you say you need to stop thinking about boys and concentrate on your studies because noones going to look after you, and you need to earn your own living. Am a bit confused over this. Its a bit late for me now, but, maybe it will help someone else who is raising a daughter.