Question How 'still in control' are parents usually once son or daughter has reached his/her 20's? How much differerence is there usually in treatment of older and younger siblings, not in regards to their age now but in regards to each when they were a certain age and what was done for and with them and that when growing up? One example would be spending most of the day sharing a hobby with some siblings but openly criticizing the hobby of another and complaining if asked to do anything to get involved, heaping high praise on the achievements of one while barely aknowledging anothers...or maybe just to say 'you should have done better'. How usual is it to join certain sites or whatever to 'keep an eye on' a 20 something year old son or daughter's online social networking and to say he/she will always have to do as parent says as the bible doesnt put an age limit on it? What does it usually take for a parent to make a threat like disowning(refusing to have anything to do with)the adult child or threaten to kick him/her out of the home, even if it was never actually followed through and things were ok again afterwards? What if the son/daughter in question has completely lost all trust in this parent and relates to the parent as he/she would relate to someone outside of the family, converses with them like someone outside of the family? I hope I dont sound bad by this, and hope nobody I know recognises me or anything... Am I wrong for questioning this?