Pls Help!!! Our Lady Dorm Caretaker Is Full Of Bitterness... First and foremost, thank you very much everyone for being such an inspiration and such a good help to everyone else who needs them... God indeed uses this forum mightily... When my mom prayed that I have a dorm or BOARDING HOUSE at my request, it was a miracle. A woman randomly informed her of this boarding house. And I instantly had it. It is very clean, and I have 2 boardmates (we're all guys). The dorm caretaker's relatives live with us in this beautiful boarding house as well, and they also take care of and clean the house. OUR CARETAKER is a 68 years old woman. She is very bitter, always shouting randomly, especially at her relatives, and continues to alienate them. She criticizes the three of us boarders to each other, BEHIND OUR BACKS. Whe she admitted us, I asked her about any rules of the house,and she didn't tell me any rules. But then, she started pointing out our faults which turned out to be violations of her rules --such as: -always walk silently in the hallway -never put dirty clothes under a particular cabinet -never talk outside the house at 10 pm -wear slippers only in the second floor, NEVER SHOES.. -never leave books in any table -always at a designated place. -never leave any lights on. It is quite insane. We have to discover the "rules of the house" ourselves, by learning what she RUMORED to others behind our backs. But the rules are not consistent. For instance, the rule always walk silently in the hallway --she sometimes does it herself, and her relatives. The rule -never put dirty clothes --why not? The rule never talk outside-- that's reportedly because she was already sleeping, but her relatives tell us this is not true.. besides, even at midnight, she goes out of her room to turn off any lights in the house. --The rule never leave any lights on --is quite insane too. Imagine, while i am using the sala, I leave it to get something. But she will turn off the light (to save electricity). But isn't this damaging to the electrical outlets (the constant turn-on and turn-off). She always looks for faults to rumor us about. And when someone tries to talk to her, she shuts him off and displays RUDE behavior to him. She expects payment of the dorm at due date, and BECOMES VERY MAD whenever someone is a little late. Now you ask, why don't we complain her to the HOUSE OR DORM OWNER? Because our Dorm owner's nanny is our caretaker! She would call our dorm owner, who is in another country, through long distance calls, and report any behavior to our and her relatives' prejudice. Sadly, our dorm owner believes her, as she was her nanny. Our caretaker, needless to say, is VERY POWERFUL in our house. But I don't want to leave this house. It is such a clean house, and it started the miracles in my life. And I really study well because of it, etc, etc. Through our caretaker's stories and her relatives', I began to know that she has lived in poverty all her life. They were a family of 13 children. One of her dreams is to study even just in college, but it was not fulfilled. A total spinster, she had to let go of her suitor then because she bore the brunt of the family, working as a helper in this house since her youth, to help her siblings. But she HATES her siblings, and her nephews and nieces. She was also treated cruelly by our owner's grand-aunt before in her youth, when she was already working as a maid in this house. She pleaded for her father to let her study even in high school, but she was forced to work as a maid and she finished only elementary. As manifestations of her bitterness, she constantly bickers at her relatives in the house for even the small things, and constantly shouts in the house. Specifically, she had gained some "mind" control over her nephew Michael, who IS NOW 28, a formerly insecure and pessimistic man who obeys her and is secretly afraid of her. Through God's grace, I bought christian books, and shared the Gospel to Michael, and I have become his friend. He is now smiling, he now looks young (before he really looked old), and he now has a more positive attitude towards life and about himself. Our caretaker is sensitive to music, so as a singer, I sing the song "CHOOSE TO FORGIVE" around the house, hoping that she might pick up some of its message. I have given her gifts, and have smiled at her a lot of times. I have instructed my christian friend to tell her "accidentally" --"Oh, you must be the caretaker! I have heard a lot of good things about you, that you really keep the house clean, that you are careful, that you are a good obsever"... I left a christian book about letting go of bitterness on the table, and I saw her secretly reading it... (although i never saw her reading it again). I know that these actions are not enough. Her new target is her nephew Simon. PLS ADVICE ME... HOW DO I DEAL WITH HER BITTERNESS AND UNFORGIVING SPIRIT? HOW CAN HER BITTERNESS BE BROKEN? WHAT ARE THE ACTIONS I CAN TAKE? Remember, she is now 68 years old. She is quite at THE END OF HER YEARS. The results of her terrorizing ripple through the house...especially at her relatives... Thank you very much!