Generally speaking, I find it interesting that so many are caught up in the soap opera practice of dredging up hypotheticals for all manner of dysfunctional marriage scenarios, and rarely talk about the healthy relationships...as if they are the less desired examples. Frankly, the dysfunctional relationships always have one of the two labeled as "the bad guy," when in fact it took both of them to make the choice to enter into the relationship in the first place. In other words, when one of them is considered the culprit, it still took the other to be lacking in discernment and trust in the Lord to show to them the dysfunctionalities in the other, and therefore refuse to enter into the relationship in the first place. That means they were BOTH dysfunctional at the moment they both decided the relationship was a good one to embark upon. This phenomenon is almost never discussed with young, middle aged and even older singles, divorcees, widows and widowers. As soon as one of the two in the failed marriage is identified as the culprit, the other is generally let off scott-free from any responsibility for the choice that they BOTH made together. Rarely, if ever, can it be said that either one is totally free of any and all blame for the choices made at the beginning of the relationship by BOTH parties. If they are unbelievers, then they are completely on their own, but professing believers need to start taking responsibility for the choices they are faced with by taking the time to discern the will of the Lord, and listening to others who may be warning them for whatever reason. With deception and lies being the key go-to's for most, it's not uncommon for the allegedly "innocent" party to walk away under the deluded assumption that they are blameless in and of themselves, and thus free to remarry so long as the silly legal system allows for the divorce. 1 Chronicles 13:10 And the anger of the LORD was kindled against Uzza, and he smote him, because he put his hand to the ark: and there he died before God. Uzza had good intentions, after all, by trying and keep the ark from falling off the cart...never minding that he failed to object to the ark ever being carried upon a cart in the first place, which was clearly contrary to the commandments of the Lord in how it was to be transported. The Lord is exacting in all things, and modern Christians trying to skate by with their milk-toast and wet-noodle excuses in trying to escape responsibilities in this life wreaks of the stench of post-modern relativism in values and personal stature. MM