Is Spanking Child Abuse? From a general religious standpoint, it is not. What do you think? I believe that using NECESSARY -- keyword here -- force to restrain a child is acceptable. But i don't mean like whacking your kid upside the head -- I'm talking firm hand-holding, a little slap on the wrist or bum, that kind of "discipline". And of course trying to discipline with forms other than physical. But as long as you don't really harm the kid, and they still know you love them and you're doing it for their own good, then I think it's okay.