Hello Christian Forum Site,
My sister, 2 years OLDER than me, is in one of the worst state anyone can be in. She's been out of job for the last three years. Her attempts at her own restaurant business has been a failure where she loss close to $30,000. I'm not sure of her attempts at a job or school but she isn't progressing in that department either.
Now, here's the thing. Usually, I would be caring for someone in this situation. But my sister is someone that gives me zero reason to care for her even to the point where ignoring her might be the best thing to do. To me, she has zero sense of family care and adult responsibility. Here's why:
Given her situation and presumably her only savings being 401k, she still:
1. Goes for bi-annual trips to Europe and the West Coast on parent's credit card.
2. Her effort in doing something with her life can be much much more, ie, she spends the majority of her time watching TV.
3. She makes minimal effort in "being there as a family" during relative's weddings, graduation, visits, etc.
4. Refuses to ferry my parents once in a while when they want to make a trip out of town.
Now, you can say that I pretty much got my life sorted out - Ivy league, associate in marketing salary increase every year, getting an apartment in Manhattan soon. But trust me, I have done zero flauting of my assets to my sister. And I am not a money conscience machine. I do serve at church and I like to unwind with people over dinner.
Me wanting to ignore her comes from two things - 1. it is the better thing to do as some realities of life are just inevitable and 2. the maintenance of my own sanity as I get crazy once in a while thinking how someone blood related to me can have such an attitude towards life.
This is not a question of whether it is legally right or wrong. I just need opinions on whether what I'm doing is morally okay.
Cheers,
Nijikon
My sister, 2 years OLDER than me, is in one of the worst state anyone can be in. She's been out of job for the last three years. Her attempts at her own restaurant business has been a failure where she loss close to $30,000. I'm not sure of her attempts at a job or school but she isn't progressing in that department either.
Now, here's the thing. Usually, I would be caring for someone in this situation. But my sister is someone that gives me zero reason to care for her even to the point where ignoring her might be the best thing to do. To me, she has zero sense of family care and adult responsibility. Here's why:
Given her situation and presumably her only savings being 401k, she still:
1. Goes for bi-annual trips to Europe and the West Coast on parent's credit card.
2. Her effort in doing something with her life can be much much more, ie, she spends the majority of her time watching TV.
3. She makes minimal effort in "being there as a family" during relative's weddings, graduation, visits, etc.
4. Refuses to ferry my parents once in a while when they want to make a trip out of town.
Now, you can say that I pretty much got my life sorted out - Ivy league, associate in marketing salary increase every year, getting an apartment in Manhattan soon. But trust me, I have done zero flauting of my assets to my sister. And I am not a money conscience machine. I do serve at church and I like to unwind with people over dinner.
Me wanting to ignore her comes from two things - 1. it is the better thing to do as some realities of life are just inevitable and 2. the maintenance of my own sanity as I get crazy once in a while thinking how someone blood related to me can have such an attitude towards life.
This is not a question of whether it is legally right or wrong. I just need opinions on whether what I'm doing is morally okay.
Cheers,
Nijikon