I believe and have gotten a clearer understanding that Discipleship or being a Christ follower means a single focus- no distractions. I believe that when Jesus says follow me he is saying follow me immediately and without interruption, surrender and be committed.
18 When Jesus saw the crowd around him, he gave orders to cross to the other side of the lake. 19 Then a teacher of the law came to him and said, “Teacher, I will follow you wherever you go.”
20 Jesus replied, “Foxes have dens and birds have nests, but the Son of Man has no place to lay his head.”
21 Another disciple said to him, “Lord, first let me go and bury my father.”
22 But Jesus told him, “Follow me, and let the dead bury their own dead.”
Matthew 8:18-22