Hi Pamela, Yes I would back up what Boanerges said. Any culture that promotes (through whatever means) focusing on oneself or cutting or anything that causes harm to the individual isnt imo, good. You sould like a kind thoughtful young woman, and I believe you have lots to give, maybe if you could find a church or a fellowship that is Bible believing and Spirit filled you would be pleasently suprised at the fellowship and support you would get? You are right, in that, going to church doesnt make you closer to God or anything like that, I just believe it is an act of worship to go and meet with other like mindede people to worship God. Out of my giving, He blesses me and empowers me. I always think of an analogy someone said when I was a new Christian, a coal only stays hot as long as it is in the fire, if you take one piece out it is still coal, but it rapidly cools down! That is like us, we function better and fulfill what God has called us to do better, if we stick together.