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Blind Date

Discussion in 'Biblical Advices' started by Iskij, Jun 23, 2007.

  1. Blind Date

    Hello Everybody, just want to get your thoughts with regards to going on blind dates. What if a friend asked you to go out with his/her friend, would you go?

    I personally think that there's nothing wrong with going out with that 'friend' as long as you set some limits. But does this also mean that I don't trust God to show me the person he has intended for me? Would it be okay to go out with the 'friend' evenif one doesn't know if he's a Christian or not?
  2. I really wouldn't want to go out with someone who wasn't a Christian AND I didn't know him.
    A Christian blind date would be alright with me IF another Christian couple were there too.
  3. (This is my first go at (trying) to give advice lol)

    When you think about it, Christianity and blind dates have a similar element in that both have to be taken by faith. By faith we believe and love Jesus Christ, our Saviour, even though we have yet to meet Him face to face.

    Personally, I won't go on blind dates.
    I don't know if it is allowed by God or not, but its something I just wouldn't get involved in.

    May i ask how old you are ?

    No, personally i wouldnt. I think the only real way to get together with someone, weather it be a freindship or a boyfreind / girlfreind relationship is to get to know the individual by "hanging around" them with your freind(s).

    There is always the issue if the individual is born again or not.
    How can you lead a good God centered relationship if the other person isnt born again ?

    This doesn't go for everyone, but alot of the unsaved people who get into relationships end up tempting or persuading the other person to get up to commit adultry ect.

    I have seen it discussed many times where a christian girl is dating a non-christan boy and the boy wants sex and trys to persuade the christian girl to agree to it. I'm not saying that this will be the case, but its something to take into consideration.

    I am guessing you are quite young ?
    If this is for a BF/GF relationship slow down a bit.
    If you trust in God the time will come for you to meet the man God has waiting for you.

    From Matthew 6:

    25"Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? 26Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life[b]?
    28"And why do you worry about clothes? See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? 31So do not worry, saying, 'What shall we eat?' or 'What shall we drink?' or 'What shall we wear?' 32For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

    Hope this helps.

    God bless.
  4. I agree with the comments from Violet as quoted above.
  5. I do not believe that God in any way forbids blind dates. That would be just rediculous if there were verses in the Bible banning blind dates. I just can't imagine it. That being said, it would be a good idea if a blind date were at least selected for you by a good Christian friend, and you brought couple along. It would be insane to go out alone with someone that you have never met. Violet is right about going out with a fellow Christian if possible.

    Your question about trusting God to find someone for you is a bit interesting too. Do you expect God to have someone fall on you out of the sky someday? No, He is not going to do that. You will instead, meet people at Church, social gatherings, and places where you are enjoying your hobbies and interests. You do have hobbies and interests don't you? If you don't then get some, and find out who you are and what you like before you find a partner. Too many people get involved in relationships and get married before thay find out what they want out of life, and then it is too late.

    I also just realized that I don't even know how old you are. You could very well be too young for the advice that I just gave you.

    Good Luck,
  6. You've never been in the Pentecostal/charismatic movement have you?......

    That's the way they claim all Godly Christian marriages happen and the people fall out of the sky at church and I was taught that.... And they had the 'testimony' to 'back it up.......'

    What an Idiot I used to be.......... A painful lesson learned.
  7. Avlight~
    now you know I'm with you on this one, don't you!:)
    I know all about the seclusion and all, there!

    BUT.....let this be my testimony.

    My husband DID fall out of the sky.
    But it was MY FAITH and boy did I have faith!!!
    And God honored my faith!

    My first husband left me when I was 21 and pregnant with our 4th child.

    I asked God first for a Father for my children and then a loving husband for me.

    I knew in my heart it would happen and if I am bragging then it is on my faith in GOD!

    When I was 24 a young 19 year old man came from 450 miles away to go to college in my town.
    We met and fell in love at first sight.
    He still tells me that the last thing he was interested in was marriage til he met me and I changed everything for him~

    What does that tell you!

    He loved my children and helped me raise them for 1 and a half years before we got married, while attending college and working a job.

    We just celebrated our 21st anniversary.
    We had 4 more children together.
    So we raised 8 children together.

    I remember the first time he came to my house and my 3 year old son hugged him and called him "Daddy".
    I was SO embarrassed.

    My boyfriend winked at me and hushed me up!
    That touched my heart so much!

    I cooked for him and brought his laundry to my house and spent alot of time helping him study for exams; my way of doing what I could to help him and show my love and appreciation~

    Yes, it was God's answer to my faithful prayer!
  8. i say go enjoy yourself,just go for fun no ties.go home if you feel uneasy.
  9. I don't think there's anything wrong, either. I would recommend going on blind dates ONLY with friends that you trust and not just someone you casually know. If your friend fixing you up is trustworthy, it could be an enormous blessing to you both.
  10. Thank you so much for your advices :) Thanks for the encouraging testimony violet :)

    I'm in my late 20's. The friend who was trying to set me up is not a Christian but he's trustworthy. When he asked me the other day I had to turn him down because it was the night our Church group meets for bible study... (Hmm... I think God's trying to tell me something :))

    Thank you again to all of you :) Now I have a clearer idea on how to deal with blind dates.
  11. By the way Born2LoveYou, for your 1st attempt in giving advices... I think you're quite good :smile_anim:
  12. Blind ,deaf or dumb? LOL! I haven't had to date in some time but I do believe that if I was in that situation I would stick to dating other christians because of that thing about being unequally yoked.

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