Can i also add a suggestion? Ask God to lead you to scriptures that He wants you to pray over her. And begin to speak by faith, trusting God to fulfill those scriptures (which would be like promises to you). And even when she is not acting accordingly, only speak what those scriptures say. Thank God that He fills her with peace and, joy, and that He fills her with His wisdom. Thank Him that she is a godly woman. It works! Cuz i am learning to do this more often. And as we refuse to grab ahold of the offense, walking in total Love and forgiveness.....God can work wonders!