Giving money to any one randomly cannot be defined as tithing. That was a donation. You cant take God's money for Him and decide what to do with it. He can let you off, I don't think its a big deal personally what you did to God - I just don't think you can call it a tithe. The bible says to give cheerfully and expect nothing in return. When you gave to this man you gave without expecting. That was good. Tithes on the other hand have nothing to do with if you feel good or bad - its a command for consistently tithing to a church that takes care of you or were you find your home in Christ in. The Bible says bring the whole tithe into the house of God so there may be enough to take care of the house. Levites were meant to eat from this source as its their only source of income. However, I am not far from believing that if a church is receiving monies consistently, that they cant consider giving it or helping a woman who might be fleeing for her life for instance. If the world can have a higher moral obligation to their own, why cant the church. Thankfully, the church I now go to (not the one I used to when I opened this thread) - in my new church I can see where my money is going. And that pleases me deeply. In fact my church will only spend 25% on admin. The rest goes straight into missions and out there to help the needy. Now that's what our tithes are for.