I am a married, born again Christian man. I work as a chief executive in a mid-size company and I am in love with one of my employees without the one - or anyone else - to know. She is married and not a Christian, but that is not the point here. This all is just in my head and heart, but it is so overwhelming it is partly ruining my life. I cannot get her off my mind. The situation has continued for few years now. I have prayed for release on this matter for years, but it just seems to get worse. I am desperately in love with her, even thought I know, that we are so different, this love would hardly make sense even if we both would be available. Luckily its love only - I feel no lust. Strange but true. So, I am in love with a married, non-christian woman who I could hardly come along in a real life. But in my mind and heart I miss her so much, it literaly hurts. She occupies my mind and steals my attention from my own wife and other normal issues in life. I have made a judgement, that these thoughts and feelings are sin and should go away. Even though it is just love and no lust, it is something that comes in between of me and my wife. And she is married to another man. It cannot be right. She is an excellent worker, an outstanding manager. She works in a narrow field - I cannot reposition her. We have to solve some issues together a few times a week. They are allways professional events, nothing too personal has ever happened or been said. I suppose she has no feelings for me, which is good. This is my problem only. She might be sensing something, which is not good. Nobody should have to work in a situation feeling that the boss has some thoughts or desires the one should not have. I often try to avoid her. That is not practical. She is also very sensitive about her professional position and easily feels she has been on side track for no reason. There are problems with my marriage which may have made me vulnerable to these thoughts. My wife is mentally unstable with fairly regular psycotic behaviour. It is a very heavy relationship wearing us both out, however, I am not considering leaving her. That just would not be right. And that is regardless of the problem I am writing about. How can I get the wrong love off my mind? Years of praying has not helped. At least, that has not yet helped.