Praise God. adoptivemommy No offense taken Sister. It is the way I am looking at it. I'll give you an example the Lord gave me. my family came over to your house all the time, and we had dinner and our kids always played together. We fished, shopped, picnicked, and did lots of things with your family. Well, one day my family came over and something was said that upset both families. We went away mad. A week went by and you called, and told us you were sorry, we said we were sorry also. However, we did not come back over like we use to. A few more weeks went by and you wondered why we kept making excuses about not coming over. You called us and we assured you we were not mad. Years go by, and we still never came back over. We told you over and over we FORGAVE your family, but our actions speak different. Worse, we mention the incident again to anyone that will listen and tell people just how horrible you treated us. Did we forgive? We said we did. How much more a family if they be your bothers and sisters in Christ at the church................................. Jesus Is Lord.