Whoever takes up his plow, and looks back is unfit for the kingdom of heaven. its statements like this, and in luke 14 that bother me Luke14:26: If anyone comes to Me and does not hate his [own] father and mother [[g]in the sense of indifference to or relative disregard for them in comparison with his attitude toward God] and [likewise] his wife and children and brothers and sisters—[yes] and even his own life also—he cannot be My disciple. So where is the honor your mother, and your spouse in here? That doesnt seem very honoring of either. Because the man was to tell his family he was leaving to follow Jesus, he is no longer worthy? Should he have gone without warning, and left his family, mother, wife children to worry about where he went? If anyone did that today there would be a missing persons report. Not to mention once you are a disciple isnt it your duty to spread the gospel to them? your mother, wife, son daughter brother etc?