What to do? I'm asking this question on behalf of my brother-in-law, we'll call him Jim, concerning he and his wife "Nancy." I'm not a nosy person, but Jim is asking my advice, and I'd like to hear opinions from other Christians. TIA. In 2007, Jim and Nancy started dating. Nancy and her mother decided that she and Jim should move in together, which Jim didn't want to do. But after much argument, Jim gave in. A few months later, Nancy decided she wanted a baby. Again, Jim didn't want to, but eventually gave in. So they got pregnant and had a baby. Then she decided that since they already had an apartment and a baby that they might as well just get married... The rest of their marriage has followed in this pattern. Nancy wants something, Jim doesn't, but Nancy argues until he gives in. They're literally at a point where he has no idea what to do anymore. He's a recovering alcoholic and drug addict who, praise the Lord!, has rededicated his life to Christ and is really getting back on the right track. Nancy, however, wants nothing to do with it. They're basically in a loveless marriage. He's not "allowed" to kiss her, hold her hand, put his arm around her... They sleep in separate rooms. She allows her dog to sleep with her, but not her husband. Needless to say, they have LITERALLY had no intimate life since they're 15 month old baby was born. Even yesterday, Nancy made the comment that they're not having anymore children. Jim said, "Well, God may think otherwise," and Nancy's reply was, "I can control it." Jim has no idea what to do. She refuses to let him have a say in how they raise their child. Everything is her way or the highway. She says she loves and supports him, but she continues to bring alcohol into their home and even drinks it in front of him, even though he is a VERY recently recovering alcoholic. Yet, if he messes up, she holds it over his head. She refuses to go to church, so he just takes the baby and goes without her. She refuses to go to counseling. She'll barely even talk to him. He's tried to sit down with her and discuss their issues before, but she stays silent. Of course, I 100% believe that any marriage can be saved. Our God is that big and that powerful. But I also believe that marriage is two-sided. Jim wants so desparately to save his marriage, but I also believe that she has to be willing to do a little work herself. Jim's parents have been married for 43, and for about 35 have absolutely not been able to stand each other, and I know that 40 years down the road, Jim doesn't want to look back on his life and realize that he's turned out the same way. He just feels like he's tried everything, and she refuses to budge at all. He's asked me for advice, and I honestly don't know what else to tell him. I'd love some insight or thoughts from fellow Christians. Thanks in advance for anything you could share.