Hi All, I am hoping to get some advice regarding the best course of action to take in my current situation... Until 18 months ago I was not a Christian, I had a daughter from a previous relationship who had just finished counselling for being sexually abused by her birth father, and I was in a relationship with my partner at the time with a toddler son. The relationship was not right with him distancing himself from me and my daughter and originally demanding that I aborted our son. Wrongly of me, I began an affair with a man at work. After 3 weeks I left my partner and continued in my relationship with the new man. My new partner is a Christian and he struggled a lot with his actions as he knew my situation. I assured him that my old relationship was going to end, that he and I were a catalyst for that happening. I too struggled with what I had done. I have never wanted to return to my old relationship, but I could not handle the misery and upset I had caused to all involved. It was at this point that my 'new' partner suggested I prayed. I did, I started to attend Church and have not looked back ever since. I cannot imagine my life without Jesus and I have gone from strength to strength, I have improved as a person, my behaviour has improved, I have Jesus shining for me! My problem is that my Christian partner proposed to me after 6 months, and helped me financially get a house for me and my children. He stays sometimes. But whenever I have tried to discuss actually planning a wedding he gets uncomfortable. Recently he told me that he actually wants to wait until my children are adults before we get married! I have told him that since I became a Christian I will not live like that. He says that he loves me and wants to be with me, but that he is concerned that he will not be able to handle my children in their teenage years if they are 'hard work' (they are currently 7 and 2.5). If any other man said this I would run a mile, but I know him quite well and I know that he does not mean this really. His problem is that he has moved away from The Lord recently, he works on a Sunday now, rarely prays, and is 'on the run' from God. He still tithes and reads scripture but he is so far removed from the path he was on. I really think that he needs to 'get right' with God, and that maybe our problems will resolve once that happens. So do I end the relationship and let God have the space to work on him and draw the line and tell him that he cannot make me live like a harlot (when we got engaged we ended our sexual relationship then), or do I stay with the situation, even though I'm not happy with his lack of commitment, because he needs me to help lift him up to The Lord. I really want to see him prosper in his relationship with The Lord, but I can't bear feeling like he can't commit to me, and I want my children to see how Christian life should be, and I don't want to lose more dignity. I have spent a lot of time, and I still do, praying over what I did when I cheated and I see that this relationship has a bad foundation. I really believed that as this however was how I came to The Lord, that He brought us together. I'm very confused and am patiently waiting for Him to answer my prayers, I have certainly submitted this to him. Many thanks for your comfort and advice, in advance.