Once again you show that you cannot distinguish between consensual adult behavior and abuse, and that makes me feel very sorry for you. Have you ever had a psychiatric evaluation?
I should not have to spell this out if you're old enough to dress and feed yourself, but child molesters abuse children, they take advantage, and the child is too vulnerable and weak to oppose it, which makes it a crime.
As for adultery, it's a deception and a breach of trust, it has nothing to do with a consensual adult relationship.