To all the single ladies

Discussion in 'General Discussions' started by psalms511, Jan 9, 2015.

  1. To all the single ladies don't get into a rush to find the perfect man.. Seek the Lord first allow him to be your first love. Allow him to love you and show you how much your worth and be loved by him then in his timing and his will be it he will send a man to you.. He will love you and give himself to you like Jesus gave himself to the church laying down his life for you he respect you there will never be a question or doubt in your heart, he will honor you he will cherish you, your feelings will matter and will be shown that they matter by his actions . A husband of promise is worth waiting for the two can't be one without God being the head of your relationship otherwise you're working against instead of together . God joins you together and no man can tear asunder. Now if you decide to go looking after your husband of promise in the flesh you will of the flesh reap what you sow. You set out to find that perfect man you might find one that is sweet and on the appearance seem to be that perfect guy but then his true colors show through. Sweetness only goes so far if you're not speaking the same language things and your love slowly start to diminish .. Communication is so important if its not two ways you got to be able to share and receive advice , hopes dreams . You will see that you are just being used . I have a friend she is single so she put herself on a dating site and she said she had to take herself off because her phone blew up all the men of different ages hitting her up and the main topic was sex... with a husband of promise even when dating you won't be treated like that because he will see your mind and soul he will love your personality sex is a gift between man and woman after marriage in holy marriage God ordained and it won't be torn apart. just think about it for a min ,,, why do marriages end ??? For starters unfaithfulness adultery and behind adultery is lust which by the way comes in many forms nor just a good looking woman or man but informs of car , computers , gambling , booze where you treasures are is where your heart is.. but will just say another person other then your spouse... with the woman or man of promise there is no lust because their priorities are from Gods word the honor him they honor you...without God being the center there is all kind of room for Satan to come in to steal kill and destroy your emotion's, self worth , hope and anything else. and when you're out you don't have to worry about if his eyes are straying nor going through his Facebook to find he has searched other woman out or find porn on his computer . It is truly a big circle when it comes to dysfunction it all comes around dysfunctions are past down, abuse , self esteem the list goes on .. My mother has been married 4 times all unsuccessful my older sister on her 3 rd marriage my self on my 3 rd. marriage my baby sister in a abusive relationship my oldest daughter in a abusive relationship my younger daughter in a dysfunctional relationship we go out in the flesh looking for what we have grown up seeing and we pass it on to our kids and they do theirs.. when God is saying love me let. me show you how much you're worth .. abuse goes on because the man picks the woman back up by this evil kindness after he has destroyed her self esteem and worth and as long as he does that she clings to him making excuses well he don't mean it maybe he is right I can't get any better we listen to the lies of Satan . My husband he loves his game more then me as well as his lust problem I have to worry because he has told me I'm chunky I have seen his eyes look at much younger woman and their tiny bodies I have walked out and have caught him speaking to woman if he was a husband God chose he would have no desire to speak to another woman without me around just I have no desire to speak to another man without him around unless we know the person.. I have not heard a I'm sorry I disrespected you yet even when I told him I was upset about it he just sat in silence. I know.. I do not for fill my husbands desires.. Im not skinny I m chunky.. and not young. my husband looked at porn and I have a hunch he still does...I'm stuck in this marriage of fear and insecurity and unhappiness because I went looking in the flesh. yes he goes to church he is the perfect husband does the relationship classes and no he does not read his bible or pray he shows me he has no purpose getting closer to God therefore getting closer to me strengthen our bond of marriage so I love him with the love of Jesus praying and trusting God's will be done maybe one day I will come home to find him gone or praying and reading and crying out to God I don't know all I do. know is Sister or brother. seek God and his kingdom first and everything else will follow in Gods time and will..
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  2. I needed this, Im single and have been.. lol .. at 23 its hard being alone..
    but what your saying is true
  3. I know many whom the hunger for man have made them impatience and they have destroyed their life, and plan of God. It's a strange disease, but Man-itis destorys many from doing the plan of God, getting a man whom considers not the things of God or is very spiritual.

    One women I had helped from being homeless, living in a car got her to my house, bible studied with her and got her to believe God can give her kids back, and a nice place to live.

    God did both things above and beyond. She stated to have faith in God and Her son who was sick got better from a life time heart condition.

    Things were going Great, God was blessing her.............. Until.....

    Man-itis!!!!! set in. The hunger for man flesh.

    It starts with.......... I am Lonely. Lord said I will never leave you or forsake you. How the heck can you be lonely???

    Then the disease just progress from there.

    She got a guy that fooled her. Said He was a Christain man, and bla, bla, bla. I told her no, by the Spirit of the Lord. NO, NO, NO, NO.

    But this guy is great!!! NO, NO, NO, NO, NO.

    2 years later:

    This guy she married had spawn action figures that decorated her living room. They both got in trouble for stealing tax money. He son started to get worse again and worse.

    God sent me to warn her again, get out, get back with God.

    God and I was ignored.

    He son died at the ripe age of 10.
    She hated the Lord last time I spoke with her years ago.
    It's just sad.................. It did not have to end the way it did.
  5. Well, it was "ON" her. I watched her boy die. When I met her I told her God would be more than happy to heal her sons heart condition. God is just good.

    He got better and better, she got her house from the Salvation Army something hardly anyone gets as they had limited houses for women.

    She let this guy in, and the rules were no men in the house. Salvation army are Christains. They don't believe like I do concerning faith, but are good people and love God.

    She lost her house because of this man. The Action figures showed up after they were married. This guy decorated her living room in their new trailer with them. They were Demon like action figures and you just don't do that. Men don't play with action figures either from my understanding.

    She turned away from evrything I spent daily teaching about faith, seh stopped going to church. Her new Husband started to say he wanted to have sex with my wife's sister. It was a mess.

    I don't know what happened to her. Her son started to get sick again and was in the hospital. She kept confesing to everyone that she could loose her son, feel sorry for her. Complete unbelief started to come out of her mouth again.

    Her son was so scared to go to sleep, He did not want to die. One night the Lord sent me to the hospital to help him. I show up, and lay hands on the boy, peace in the name of Jesus. He feel right to sleep.

    She started to tell me how God was not helping her and not helping her son. I guess I laid into her for blaming God. She forgot how God got her kids back, gave her a house she lost, and had her son healthy for a long time.

    I did talk to her youngest daughter after her son died. She was mad at God for taking her brother.

    She is not the only girl we know though. My other friend who is now a professional singer ran off with some guy and married him after the Lord said NO, NO, NO.

    She even said she knows God does not want her with this guy.

    You keep asking the Lord about something He said NO, and you will start to hear yes.

    It was just a month and the guy was beating her. What made it worse is she is a faith person, so she was going to stay and believe God for something the Lord told her NO. She was really confused.
    That is when the Lord asked me to get involved and ask the enemy to destory that marriage, He faith non effect, but don't kill her or scare her. So I sent the devil over.

    First time I really understood the enemies role when He is not trying to mess up our life and how Paul used him to destroy the flesh of one who sept with his fathers wife.

    Thank God she escaped out of the house, God made a way for her to get a ride back to Champaign IL from MI and Her father filed those divorce papers. It was a bad situation.

    Women who are single need support. They get to a certain age and want babies then their choices in men get worse and worse. God is faithful and will get the right one over to them. I believe that.

    It's hard. Women just need strong women in their life.
  6. Aw psalm511 i feel for you would you mind telling me what game your husband plays?
    Just would like to pray for you both. Do you have children also?
  7. Wow thats some crazy stuff.. after looking/reading these stories Im 100% sure I don't have man-itis ..

    its so sad , you'd let a guy come btwn your son's healing .. when he didn't have to die.... so sad he was afraid to sleep : (
    saddest thing Ive heard, well read.
    God said no, not once but multiple times.. and in case they still weren't sure He sent you.. : /


    atleast the boy is in a better place

    but i still wonder why God took her son, why not something else?
  8. Amen thank you for your post yes we need strong woman in our lives more importantly we need God and God strong churches that preach the truth even when it hurts ..
  9. He plays watune and kingdoms clash of titans any single player games he does interact with others as well he lots of games he plays always got phone in hand playing or doing something on computer thank you for prayers Lanolin I just wanting Gods will be done not mine look where mine is brought me i'm standing still dont want to mess up no more...
  10. I replied down on the the post I put thank you for prayers
  11. It's not God that takes Children. Matthew was suppose to be dead years ago with that heart condition. It was God that got him strong, so strong he no longer had to go to the doctor for several years.

    God's Word though, can't be changed and God will never violate His own Word even to help us. Job is a case of this.

    Deu 28:15-18 amp 15 But if you will not obey the voice of the Lord your God, being watchful to do all His commandments and His statutes which I command you this day, then all these curses shall come upon you and overtake you: 16 Cursed shall you be in the city and cursed shall you be in the field. 17 Cursed shall be your basket and your kneading trough. 18 Cursed shall be the fruit of your body, of your land, of the increase of your cattle and the young of your sheep.

    Deu 30:19 kjva I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both thou and thy seed may live:

    Hos 4:6 BBE Destruction has overtaken my people because they have no knowledge; because you have given up knowledge, I will give you up, so that you will be no priest to me, because you have not kept in mind the law of your God, I will not keep your children in my memory.

    1Co 7:14 amp For the unbelieving husband is set apart (separated, withdrawn from heathen contamination, and affiliated with the Christian people) by union with his consecrated (set-apart) wife, and the unbelieving wife is set apart and separated through union with her consecrated husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean (unblessed heathen, outside the Christian covenant), but as it is they are prepared for God [pure and clean].

    If one of the parents do not serve God in faith, it puts the children at risk to death and all sorts of things.
    Children and money are the first things effected by the curse.

    How old is your husband? I am 47 and I still like video games. A man without a vision though or plan from God is going to be dissatisfied and look at natural things as the cause of the problem. Your not the problem, his realationship with God is the problem.

    Now, I don't know how much desire you have to do the will of God, but the husband should be the one leading and setting the pace and plan. If not, then time is to short to let things get in the way of our direction and path.
  12. @By Faith

    There is also this translation that I believe to be true:

    1 Cor. 7:14

    “For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.”
  13. He is 42 I am set on God will be done I have done to much of my own way I realize what God has been showing me my back is against a wall I have to stand and wait on God my husband is in church but being in church you know the fruit of the spirit and the flesh I cant judge his soul I just don't see him read unless he is desperate or in trouble I don't see him pray when I first got saved I had such a hunger for Gods word and Gods people that is evidence of being saved as well as the old things pass away I just believe God will be done I said he had a problem with porn and he has wondering eyes if God is not completely in control he will be a slave to that once again you cant be your own deliver if he loves God and honers God he will obey and grow closer if he dont he will go back to his old ways still all is in Gods hands..
  14. and Amen God is close even at the door two more Blood moons this year I know time is wrapping up this is why I dont want to leave and ruin any faith my husband has in God .... I don't want or desire to keep sinning either..
  15. I feel for you, it bothers me to see a wife who is not sastified with her spouses realationship with God. A man serving God makes a happy household.

    I spend lots of time with God, pray in tongues, and read my word all the time. I have been accused of not spending enough time with God. Thing is, I don't broadcast what God and I talk about most the time, and who can judge a persons true heart but God?

    It can be possible that your husband is better off with God than what He is able to express.......... I said could be. We know him by his fruit.

    Now if he has "Wondering" eyes. Us guys are all predesopsed to turn our heads when some fine looking girl walks by. However, I also stopped the car when I saw a Missouri Trantula. They are rare here, and mostly you see those on Animal planet. I wanted to take a good look at that spider. Much more than i turning my head to get a glance at a pretty girl.

    Now, when something is wrong in the heart, a guy will take a 2nd, 3rd, and 4th look. The heart dictates the wanting of the eyes.

    Luk 11:34 kjva The light of the body is the eye: therefore when thine eye is single, thy whole body also is full of light; but when thine eye is evil, thy body also is full of darkness.

    How is your husband checking out these girls?
    What about video game addiction?

    These two things bother me because both show a man who wants to be somewhere else, with someone else. Real life is not sastifiying enough, which only following God's plan can it be. So a Make believe life is created in the head.

    The man thinks if I had a better enviorment, and better conditions, and a better loving, good looking girl, then I could excel as a man.

    Playing lots of video games may indicate his need to feel as protector, conqurer, in control, needed, is not being met.
    In video games we can save the World, and solve issues, fighting for victory. It's a shallow reward, and off to the next game once we beat and dominated the one we are playing. There is lots more going on than just playing a video game.

    You have some theology issues though. God is not in control of anything unless someone submits that control to him. Not everything that happens on the planet is God's will, or even close to it.

    Jas 4:7 kjva Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.

    1Pe 5:5 kjva Likewise, ye younger, submit yourselves unto the elder. Yea, all of you be subject one to another, and be clothed with humility: for God resisteth the proud, and giveth grace to the humble.

    1Pe 5:6 kjva Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time:

    God is not forecing the submiting or humbling. He gets involved "AFTER" someone takes those steps. That is something they do, not something God does.

    Reliegion teaches God is in control, just let Go, and let God..............
    Satan will use us as a throw rug if we take this stance.

    We are told to submit to God, resist stead fast in faith, put on the armor. We don't let go, we grab the Word and take a stand.

    When I see this in women who say God is in control what happens, is what happenes, tells me they don't know what else to do, and have to build this false idea it's out of their hands and God will just somehow fix things. They do this to protect all the hurt they feel, not knowing what else to do.

    This stance, gets some killed after getting beat to death, some it puts them in a position to forever live with things God never intended, living a miserable life and not completing anything God called them to do.

    This is long enough. Blessings.
  16. well you can talk to me all day long on how to understand his gaming addiction how can I make him feel like he is head of household and the protector of our home? He was raised by his mother and sister his dad molested them both so the spirit of perversion passed down to him when we first met I being not a trusting person snooped through his computer and found teen porn and amtur sites and nudist sites with children on them which I should of walked away then like a dummy I stayed .. I came from a history of abuse and molestation too.. He came by was sweet and treated me good and still does I just should of walked away when I stumbled on his secret...I just feel he still likes young girls the appearance of things he has stopped looking at it on the computer we went to counseling for it.. but my heart drops every time some young girl walks by with her tiny body wearing tights as pants and he when he looks its obvious he looks 2 ed glances I don't know i turn away. All I know is he is the first man I have fallen in love with but down inside all along and what i have gone through with my exes and him is God should of been my true love..
  17. I would like to add I don't look at men I glance occasionally but I really don't have a desire to look why cant it be the same for men?????
  18. Why do we look? Honest answer is we are scumbags. Really, married men look because their brain believes there is something that will make life better. Reality is that the pretty, skinny thing won't make things better. That pretty skinny thing has issues and flesh also. Thinking that having something better to look at is delusion and confusion. The real issue is inside the man. Low self esteem and lack of direction.

    Teen porn, amature sites and nude children are an issue though. There is a difference in finding hard core child porn, and young nude girls. Young nude girls (NOT HARD CORE CHILD PORN) indicates someone who lost their youth and normal infactuations with others their age and subconsciencly (spelling) tries to find it. Being molsested as a child can instill such things. It's a regression to what was lost.

    Good news is, God can still be your true love, and sticking with someone looking at such things does not make you dumb. I think all believers should want everyone to pull out and make it, despite how horrible a thing they are currently doing. It's Jesus in us that made a soft heart of compassion. We just have to grow and learn how to make our boundries in a God like way that is right with the Father.

    Your husband really sounds like someone who has yet to deal with lost childhood and feeling that they are in conrol of things. My own dad was a drunk, a womenizer and I had a horrible childhood. It effected me even in my 30's.

    That important thing is, how do you feel now, what would you like changed, and what are you willing to do to change it.

    Staying frustrated and unhappy is not a good thing.
  19. can this unclean spirit of perversion be cast out? Have you tried..?
    Firstly he needs salvation..then can deal with it. Maybe an elder (male) can have word with him. He needs to know God's love as a heavenly Father. But only through Jesus.
    Maybe you need to separate from him for a time and spend that time fasting and in prayer. The bible says you can do this. maybe you already doing that.

    You need to ask Jesus to come heal those trauma and the memory of it. This from what I know. maybe deal with your own history first before your husbands. Then when you strengthened you can be a testimony to your husband. Obviously you can't appeal to his parents..just take this to the throne room of God and lay it all out. If we on our knees praying it will be better than any talk that prolly falls on deaf ears.

    Read Ephesians and what it says about us being adopted into God's family and also putting on the whole armour of God.
    I just wondered if those games were those addictive multi-player games that was all. Cos I was dealing with someone who had similar problem with them..think the key distract him with other hobbies. Replace the bad with something good.
  20. maybe pray about his eyes. Ears opened to hearing the gospel and eyes to see God.

    pray ephesians

    Prayer for Spiritual Wisdom
    17that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give to you a spirit of wisdom and of revelation in the knowledge of Him. 18I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened, so that you will know what is the hope of His calling, what are the riches of the glory of His inheritance in the saints,19and what is the surpassing greatness of His power toward us who believe. These are in accordance with the working of the strength of His might…

    maybe an outside hobby. Gardening is good. And that's not around people.
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