Hello, My wife left me at the end of Febuary this year and sort of gave her reasons, but made the decision herself without asking me first or giving me any warning that she is not happy and that she feels our marriage is/was not working. We have not even been married two years when she walked out. I don't want to feel this way but as she has not spoken to me for nearly two months now, I am starting to get closer to my point of no return - the point at which I give up and move on accepting she is not coming back. I am a Christian and so is she, and my beliefs on marriage, even before I became a Christian, is that the couple should work together through all times including tough. We even said so in our vows. There is no way I can contact her as she wont talk to me anymore. However I am edging nearer to the point that I will move on and it scares me. She has started the divorce by issuing me with a draft divorce petition. So I feel that saving the marriage really is not going to happen. Obviously there is a lot of details, that I can't disclose; I wasn't abusive she just felt we don't have the connection she used to feel. The advice I want is: Today, a new girl started at work as the receptionist, she is an attractive girl - and I don't mean to judge someone by their looks, personality is, of course, also important - but I feel I would like to get to know her. I haven't said anything to her yet, other than a nice "Hello", but I feel that maybe God has brought her to this job for a reason, and is the reason me? Is this my way forward - my "reward" as such? I don't want to jump in and demand a date, but I would like to get to know her outside of work. It would be difficult as most of my colleagues are male but well over her age, although I don't actually know her age, but I am sure they are older, so not really "competition". Can I ask her for her number, or Facebook? I understand I will have to tell her my current situation, I don't want to lie to her, and if we do become friends on Facebook she will see evidence of my marriage. When is an appropriate time to move on? I'm not saying I will sleep with her, it'll be just dates.