Hey everyone. I'm writing this because I feel really beat down and discouraged. I never thought I would be experiencing this. My wife of 10 years has been having an affair off and on for nearly 4 years. For the past year she has been in and out wanting to make things work and seeming sincere and then she is saying she doesn't love me anymore. For the sake of the kids, who have to witness their mom come and go all the time, I talked to a lawyer about getting an order for separate maintenance and support so we would be legally separated and I would have child custody because their mother is not being responsible right now. When I told her what I was doing she told me that our youngest child (3) isn't even mine but she has always known was the man she has been having an affair with. I'm devastated if this is true and feel like I don't even know the woman I married. I never have believed in divorce. But is it worth trying to reconcile with someone who doesn't seem like she wants to change? I really feel alone right now.