Relationship Help?

Discussion in 'New Members Welcome' started by Iguanamomma, Mar 7, 2014.

  1. Hi, I would like to get some views and opinions from some other Christian brothers and sisters, as i am the only one in my family and friends (besides my ex boyfriend that shared his testimony with me) who has put faith in Jesus Christ as my Savior, so I don't really have anyone to talk to.
    I have a man in my life that I love very much and unfortunately we met during a very sinful time in both of our lives and have a sinful history. But that was almost 2 years ago, and we have since turned away from that sin and have repented and are walking a better path with Christ now. My question is this: Is it acceptable to start over (we broke up in October because our relationship started in sin and we felt it best to end it) as we are still very much in love and best friends, and never tell anyone about our past? Like if someone asks, where, when and how did you meet, we just tell them about when we got back together and consider that the beginning. Since Christ has forgiven our sins, do we still have to tell friends and family that are not involved in the sin or are we ok to simply bury it and move on?? Thanks so much for any views on this...
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  2. I feel you really shouldn't have to explain anything if people know you are born again. If someone asks then tell them you are a Christian and your past sins have been forgiven.
  3. Hi Iguanamomma,

    I wouldn't worry about this at all. You don't have to explain anything (like you said you are forgiven). Your relationship did start when you got back together, so just start it there. If someone who knows your past brings it up with someone who doesn't know, consider it an opportunity to spread the gospel and how it changed you. The gospel is sinners are saved, not the saved were always perfect. If they know the past, so be it, if not who cares. What is great however, is your new life.
  4. Wow praise God you are a believer now!! Awesome! And your bf situation as very similar to yours. I wish you well on your journey with the most high King!!
  5. Thank you for your kind words. The problem I have is getting him to understand this view. Everytime we talk about it he feels like he is getting away with the sin by not telling his family. I don't think it's a good idea, because we didn't sin against them and it will simply cause unneeded hurt for them. I am waiting until after his brothers wedding, because I know it's a stressful time, but then later this spring/early summer I am moving 2 states to be in the same city with him. I am hoping that we can start fresh there and leave all this behind us, but he is still so confused and full of fear and convicted, that everytime I bring up us having a future, he freaks out. Not in a bad way, he just keeps repeated "i don't know what to do" Any advice on how to explain to him that we can start fresh and not be frauds in the Lord's eyes??
  6. I personally would stay away from any man that says he does not know what to do. Spiritual weakness and no ability to hear God. Men are suppose to be strong in the Lord, and take leadership. I never say I don't know what to do. I say God will show me what to do, and I'll know at the time I need to do it. God has never failed once, not one time.

    It's not our place or your place to tell him what to do. He needs to get before God and hear on what to do. God's wisdom surpasses our understanding and may tell him to handle this a whole lot different than what I can think up or you can think up.

    You need to put this on him and tell him that whatever God tells you to do, we do.
  7. You need not explain anything to anyone. It's your business only. Just say that it's the beginning and you have been forgiven. That's all. No more. No less.
  8. There is no fruitfulness in explaining the past to others; consider it the same way God sees it: He has no memory of it now for you are both in Christ (Hebrews 8 - He remembers your sins no more). Build a righteousness consciousness instead, or you'll both be crippled spiritually for the rest of your time on the Earth. BE FREE in Christ, come up into what He has done for you.
  9. Hello and welcome to the forum.
  10. A very personal opinion here... I do not tell of my previous life (prior to 7/1966 when I got saved) other than to use the fact that I am an Alcoholic (47 years sober) when witnessing to those with the same problem. I feel that by revealing that part of my life I can more effectively witness to them, having shared some of their problems. One of the saddest things we as Christians do is to go to the alter, give our sins to God and then drag them back to the pew with us, all the time, letting those Past and Forgiven sins to rule out lives...
  11. Very true. Our sins were nailed to the cross and we are dead to them now. It is not about fixing our sin self, but about living as the new creation God made us into in His Spirit of love.

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