I have such a hard time getting over a relationship (whether it be friendship or romantic) that I want to look to God to help me with this. In fact, sometimes I think that it's wrong how much time I spend dwelling on this stuff because it distracts me from focusing on God. It's almost like I spend WAY more time thinking about these guys (or friends) and not God that, I know God is a jealous God that maybe this other person BECOMES my God. It replaces God for me based on how much time I think about it, and how much I want that relationship or I want that friend back. It's almost like I think if things were better with that person, my problems will be solved. Ok I don't really think of it explicitly like that, but that's a good summary of what is going on I guess. Even relationships that are IMPOSSIBLE. For instance the guy I was dating before I moved away. I haven't even been in the same city as him in over a year, and the last time we talked was like 3 years ago! He moved to the opposite side of the country even farther away than before. I'm not actively trying to get with him, but I still think about him sometimes. And recently it entered my subconscious! I had a dream about this other guy I dated briefly, who i KNOW is wrong for me. In the dream he was really kind to me and it was quite pleasant. I haven't spoken to that guy in a year. I wasn't even thinking about him, yet he entered my subconcious. Sometimes I think that if I just "let these people go" and focus on God, only when i TRULY let go, will he reward me with a good relationship. Not that I necessarily think he's "punishing" me right now... but it's something like that. It's sort of like things are on hold until I can just let these old relationships go and trust that God is either letting us take a break / ending the relationship for good for my own good. Maybe if I trusted God more with my relationships, maybe some of the people that are so important to me will come back into my life in a few years. Maybe right now we need to be apart for some reason. And i shouldn't force it. And maybe they were meant to leave my life forever, and I should be ok with that too. But when I "force" things or pester these people (which I personally don't intend to do, but in essence that's what it seems like to them), the relationships become even more irreparably damaged. Does anybody have any stories to share about this topic? Have you had experience with this? Have you had any situations in which you wanted to hang on to a friendship / relationship that wasn't working for whatever reason, and you finally let go and then out of nowhere they came back to you? I know phrasing it like this sounds like Im not truly letting go. But i'm just asking! is that even possible? There's one person who I really miss and there's nothing i can do but give the person their space. But I'm so sad at the thought that i may never see them again. this was a very positive person in my life. but they do not want to speak to me right now.