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Question about lying

Discussion in 'Answers' started by aml65, May 14, 2009.

  1. Question about lying

    There was 1 girl in my swimming class last year(that time i wasnt save yet)and i really admire her but i was younger then her ,then she asked me what year was i told her going to 3rd year hs (but i was going 2nd year) (lied)thought she was from another school than i found out that we were school mates and she was 2 years higher than me (4th year) then after a few months i got saved forget about my sinful past and started a new beginning would then this summer i saw her again should i tell the truth or not?

    i want to be totaly honest now if she ask me ill tell her the truth
    or should i approach her and tell her tha truth?straight
  2. The truth will set you free!!!

    Tell the truth, no matter how small a lie is a lie. Not only should you tell the truth but gracously accept the consiquences, what ever they may be.
    It is better to lose a freind with the truth than to keep one with a lie.
    But the worst of all is to lose a freind with a lie when the truth would have kept them by your side.;)
  3. The truth shall set you free.:)
  4. Lies always have a way of coming out one way or another. It's better to just be up front about it. If she doesn't respect that NOW, just imagine how much worse it will be later when she finds out on her own.
  5. Maybe I've misunderstood, but if she is going to the same schools as you, she must have figured out what grade you are in, unless it is a really big school.

    When the opportunity comes up you can tell her.

    Why do I say "opportunity"? Because God can use this lie the way He uses all things to work toward His perfect will.

    She probably doesn't even remember asking you what grade you were in, so it's not like the misinformation is effecting her. IT IS ONLY YOU WHO IS EFFECTED BY THE LIE.

    You can use the truth - at the right time - to glorify God.

    So, my answer is to wait upon the Lord. :)

    Of course, coming in late like this you have probably already taken action. Can I ask what happened?
  6. The Bible’s Viewpoint

    Lying—Is It Ever Justified?


    THIS comment illustrates how many people feel about lying. Their rationale is that lying is not wrong if it does not harm anyone. Such reasoning even has an academic name—situation ethics, which says that the only law you need to follow is the so-called law of love. In other words, explains author Diane Komp, “if your motivation is right and your heart is right (then the) fact that you lied .*.*. is no big deal.”

    Such a viewpoint is common in today’s world. Scandals involving lies told by prominent politicians and other world leaders have rocked society. Influenced by this climate, many people have relaxed their commitment to telling the truth. In some domains lying has even become official policy. “I’m paid to lie. I win sales contests and get rave annual reviews if I lie. .*.*. This seems to be the core of retail sales training everywhere,” complains one salesclerk. Many believe that there is no real harm in so-called little white lies. Is this true? Are there occasions when Christians may be justified in telling a lie?

    The Bible’s Exalted*Standard

    The Bible roundly condemns all sorts of lying. “[God] will destroy those speaking a lie,” declares the psalmist. (Psalm 5:6; see Revelation 22:15.) At Proverbs 6:16-19, the Bible lists seven things that Jehovah detests. “A false tongue” and “a false witness that launches forth lies” are prominently included in this list. Why? Because Jehovah hates the harm falsehood causes. That is one reason why Jesus called Satan a liar and a manslayer. His lies plunged humanity into misery and death.—Genesis 3:4,*5; John 8:44; Romans 5:12.

    Just how seriously Jehovah views lying is highlighted by what happened to Ananias and Sapphira. These two deliberately lied to the apostles in an apparent attempt to appear more generous than they really were. Their action was deliberate and premeditated. The apostle Peter thus declared: “You have played false, not to men, but to God.” For this, they both died at God’s hand.—Acts 5:1-10.

    Years later the apostle Paul admonished Christians: “Do not be lying to one another.” (Colossians 3:9) This exhortation is particularly vital in the Christian congregation. Jesus said that principled love would be the identifying mark of his true followers. (John 13:34, 35) Such unhypocritical love can only grow and flourish in an environment of complete honesty and trust. It is difficult to love someone if we cannot be confident that he will always tell us the truth.

    While all lying is reprehensible, some lies are more serious than others. For example, one person may lie out of embarrassment or fear. Another may wickedly make a practice of lying with the intent to harm or injure. Because of his malicious motivation, such a willful liar is a danger to others and would be disfellowshipped from the congregation if he does not repent. Since not all lies are inspired by maliciousness, care must be taken not to condemn unnecessarily but to be sure one knows all the factors involved when someone has told a lie. Motives and extenuating circumstances should be taken into consideration.—James 2:13.

    “Cautious as Serpents”

    Of course, being truthful does not mean that we are obligated to divulge all information to anyone who asks it of us. “Do not give what is holy to dogs, neither throw your pearls before swine, that they may never .*.*. turn around and rip you open,” warned Jesus, at Matthew 7:6. For example, individuals with wicked intent may have no right to know certain things. Christians understand that they are living in a hostile world. Thus, Jesus advised his disciples to be “cautious as serpents” while remaining “innocent as doves.” (Matthew 10:16; John 15:19) Jesus did not always disclose the full truth, especially when revealing all the facts could have brought unnecessary harm to himself or his disciples. Still, even at such times, he did not lie. Instead, he chose either to say nothing or to divert the conversation in another direction.—Matthew 15:1-6; 21:23-27; John 7:3-10.

    Faithful men and women mentioned in the Bible, such as Abraham, Isaac, Rahab, and David, were likewise shrewd and cautious when dealing with potential enemies. (Genesis 20:11-13; 26:9; Joshua 2:1-6; 1*Samuel 21:10-14) The Bible classifies such men and women as faithful worshipers whose lives were characterized by obedience. That makes them worthy of imitation.—Romans 15:4; Hebrews 11:8-10, 20, 31, 32-39.

    There may be times when lying seemingly provides an easy way out. But Christians today do well to imitate Jesus’ course and follow their Bible-trained conscience when facing particularly difficult situations.—Hebrews 5:14.

    The Bible encourages us to be truthful and honest. Lying is wrong, and we should follow the Bible counsel: “Speak truth each one of you with his neighbor.” (Ephesians 4:25) By doing so, we will keep a clean conscience, promote peace and love in the congregation, and continue to honor “the God of truth.”—Psalm 31:5; Hebrews 13:18.
  7. I have found in my experience that if a situation like this came up it was best to go back to that person and tell the truth and ask forgivness. It is not only the right thing in the eyes of our Lord but it is also a good witness to the other person, especially if they are not saved.

    It may even be a way to open a door to speak about why we do not lie and what God thinks about lying. And what Jesus has done to make the way of forgivness.

  8. aml65 it is funny how God puts us in these situation to find out how we will react and test us of our faith and believe in Him. I would tell this friend the truth for this is your change to be a witness for your Saviour. And so many of us miss these opportunity's because we are scared of what our friends or others will think, and i will be honest with you I have missed opportunity's like this.
    We all fall short of the glory of God. And Our Father is a forgiving God but when we do take the opportunity and we walk out in faith and be a witness for our Lord and Saviour them our Father will bless our in many ways.....May God give you a peace about this situations and the strength to be a witness........... Love Jane

  9. The truth is always the only way to go. By going to her and telling her about your lie, it may open a door for you to share Christ with her ! GO FOR IT

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