Our church pastor of 19 years and his wife divorced 2years ago. this created such heartbreak in the church.He ended up leaving and pastoring another church on the other side of town. It was a terrible time in our church family as many were split. Some who were great friends with the pastor left to stand by him, leaving with bitter feelings that the rest were "judging", those of us who stayed behind were left with the sadness and shame. Shame that we were not praying for our pastor through all of this, shame we didn't protect him, shame we allow more time for him to spend with his family... he was a pastor who just worked and worked, in time though, his personal relationship suffered. We as a small group who were left behind, began to reach out to one another, pray together, cry together... we never spoke unkindly. He was never in fact asked to leave, We knew things were going bad, but when someone would ask him about it He would say for us to mind our own business... One day he announced that he and his wife filed for a divorce, and about a month later he left the church. We had a temporary pastor for over a year, and after MUCH prayer and healing.... In fact, we found ourselves looking at our own lives, and in so many ways recommitted our lives to God, turning away from sin, forgiving people we realized has brought us deep bitterness. We began to heal. In fact, our church got to the lowest point i believe but that was when we cried out more to God for help. Then suddenly God began to bring families in, He also began to bring lost people into our church... over the course of 6months over 60 people accepted Christ, families moved in and people joined.. You just don't know how exciting a time it was for us all to see, God beginning to work once again in our church. Then a few months later He brought us a new pastor....... Now its been over 21/2years since that day our former pastor left, I received news this week he is remarrying, to a woman who has already been married 3other times.... We received an invitation in the mail to attend the ceremony. My husband wants to attend, he says it is for healing and forgiveness..... but i do not. I just don't feel right with it. How can you preach about what God commands yet live your life differently.... Please don't think I am judging them, I am very torn by this, We have never gossiped about this, in fact, i believe that lack of prayer for and lack of lifting up our Pastor in prayer was our sin..... I hold no ill feelings, yet just don't feel like I should stand in support. I feel maybe a card to acknowledge I received an invitation and to thank them for wanting to include us would be better. I know God forgives us of our sins. And I know we aren't to go around pointing out others sins to them, and I am sure some on this blog have been divorced and remarried so they may have a different view as well. I was pondering back in forth as to what to do when I received an email just a day ago which has a devotion attatched, in it is mentioned divorce and remarrying in the church today and that the church is changing their views. That people have changed what is written by God to fit their lifestyle... This helped me in my decision, to not attend.