I have a 34 yr old daughter, who is now single, mother of 2 boys ages 13 ad 10. She had been renting a home from us until her funds ran out, and we let her live there rent-free for 3 years. We kept thinking she would be able to get a job and pay the payments for this home, and that never happened. She stopped trying to find a job, and didn't mind living off the State. Since we could no longer afford to keep the home without her paying for it, we asked her to move out last year, and she and the boys moved into our basement. She could not stand the idea that we asked where she was going and when she would be back, even as we kept her sons, so she moved back into the house she had left, in pretense of packing her things. She and her boyfriend went to Texas to find work and both came home about $1000 poorer (money which had come from child support and tax refunds). In November last year we finally told her to make up her mind and DO something, so she moved in with her boyfriend and left the boys with us. (She didn't ask if this was an acceptable arrangement, she just left). She supposedly has custody of the boys, and leaves all the decision-making about their activities up to us, unless she has something she wants to do. She does not consult anyone else about plans, she feels extremely put-upon when asked questions, and the idea of helping to financially support her boys is something she rarely thinks of. They boys have been living here over a year, and I am wondering if she has legally abandoned them or not. I also am searching for advice on how to handle all this with her in a manner that will help her grow up.