I was friends with a guy on and off for 9 years, a friendship I ended 2 yrs ago. The reason I ended it is because it was a flirtatious friendship and so when he got involved with another woman I decided to walk way. However because of his immaturity he still wanted to be around me while being with her because despite the fact he got with her he has always and still loves me, he just chose her instead out of convenience. I always knew though that at sone point he would come back to me trying to have a relationship with me once he no longer was with her and that's exactly what just happened. He contacted me saying that he was back by himself and wants us to basically date. He said he is in a different place in his life, has grown and wants to get to know me all over agai to see if we are meant to be or compatible. I however am not buying it, I do not believe for one second that he has really changed and grown the way he said he has. I think he is just lonely and wants me around for entertainment. He of course has denied this but I feel like if he was serious about starting fresh and new with me he would approach me in a diff manner and put some actual effort into proving his feelings towards me. Over these past 2 yrs we've been apart ive done a lot of growing and I've gotten closer to God so I no longer believe he is the one for me. My question is do you think im being to hard on him and if you think God may be working through this situation? Everytime him and I have drifted apart in a strange turn of events we always ended up back around each other again..we have a bond and connection that for some reason won't break no mattet what and im starting to think that maybe he is the one God has for me BUT that He had to work on us both first before bringing us together. Ive said many prayers for him so I think that right now God may be slowly changing his heart and making him into the man he needs to be for me. But I don't know. Ever since that encounter I have not stopped thinking about it and wondering what's going to happen next but im trying to just let God do whatever He is doing and go about my life as I feel whatever God wants to happen will in His timing. I just know that unless he grows mentally and spiritually like I have Im not allowing him around but am curious as to how I will know when or if he has grown and is serious about me..what will be the signs?