This is LONG and I’m in NEED of some godly advice, so unless you TRULY want to help me out, you may get bored reading this. Hello, I’m new here. I’m 33, married with two children – oh, and a child of God – that’s very important. I am in need of some godly advice and at this time, I do not have anyone I can turn to. I wasn’t sure where to post this, but since it mostly concerns my marriage, I thought I would post it here. I’m not sure what I’m hoping for, looking for, but all I know is that I need some advice from godly people – perhaps to hear different opinions to try to settle my heart and make up my mind. I will not go into great detail because this could take a very long time. Basically, I have a husband who greatly dislikes my mother and it is causing tension in my marriage. I would choose my marriage any day over my relationship with my mother, but what I want to know is if I should just drop my mother (who has an interest in seeing her two grandchildren), end our relationship and keep the one with my husband and I happy?! So skip ahead now to when I meet my husband. Before she ever even met him, saw a picture of him, heard his voice, she made up her mind about him because of gossip from other church folk at the church my husband and I used to attend. She wrote me a hateful letter saying bad things about me and even worse things about my husband. Instead of me writing her off as a mother, I wrote my own letter back to her trying to smooth things over. To make a long story short, my husband now greatly dislikes my mother to the core and my mother thinks she has some sort of entitlement to see me and her grandchildren because I am her daughter and she does have grandchildren. However, my husband has put up with a few visits now and then from my parents, but it hasn’t been without much anger, hatred, bitterness and conflict within my marriage. Things are very well and happy with my husband and I so long as I don’t bring my mother into the picture. Honestly, I really don’t love my mother much, but she has this grip on me as though she deserves to see her grandchildren and as though I feel I owe her respect because I’m her daughter. I love my husband!! I love my marriage! It’s worth far more to me than a relationship with my mother. Do I upset my mother and tell her I never want to see her again just to make my marriage work and be a happy one? My husband sees it as a sign of disrespect to allow her to visit, even if he never would even see her during the visit. He says I do not love him because I keep allowing this “enemy” into our lives. Is he right? I know his anger and bitterness is a sin, but I would rather have a happy marriage than allow this to continue for as long as it has – nearly 10 years now. He says that if I keep doing things that he hates, he’s going to keep doing things to me that I hate – and I know exactly what that means. They’ve discussed things a few times through email and in person and things appeared to have been resolved, but shortly after, my mother goes back to her “entitlement” ways and my husband goes back to his “anger and bitterness” ways. This relationship just will not work. So please, if anyone is reading this, if anyone really cares, please reply and give me the godly advice that I so desperately need at this time. I will pray about it, but it still gives me no comfort when I do not have the answers and do not know what to do. I know the Bible says, “Leave and cleave”. Should I drop my relationship with my mother all together? Is that a sign of disrespect? Why do I still feel like such a little child around her?