When I was beginning my walk with the Lord, my pastor told me I had to hate the sin I was struggling with like God hates it. I loved a particular sin for a long, long time in my life. It wasn't that I took pleasure in disobeying God - but I loved participating in immoral acts because of the pleasure. The first thing God did for me is lift the "love" off of that sin. I no longer love that sin, because there's too much not to like about it. I started hating myself for this sin, or when I still fall to it. This isn't what my pastor wanted to happen, but I know this is what is happening. I hate myself when I cannot control my urges. How do I make the hate fall on the sin act and not on myself?