Hello, I just would like some advice. I don't know if there is really a straight answer in the Bible, but I could use some spiritual wisdom right now. 3 years ago I entered a relationship (I had been baptized and all but I really had not been living as Christ, and I was blind to my sin) and it eventually led to us having sex. Both of us genuinely decided to follow Christ after a year and a half and we let the relationship go. We felt the Lord telling us to let it go. For the next year I struggled very much in my faith. Perhaps I thought it would be like Issac and Abraham. I though God wouldn't REALLY take us separate paths. I had always thought I was going to marry her. It was tough seeing her every day, but glory to God because I am stronger every day for it. Now, I know that she is not my future wife. When we let go of the relationship, it was in a way like losing a wife, because we had shared that spiritual intimacy ment only for marriage. I was extremely attached. So, maybe being led by the Spirit, I began reading all about marriage and God's intentions for it. I am in awe of its beauty and I mostly understand what God says about it. I struggle. A lot. I don't struggle with waiting till marriage to share that sexual intimacy, but with loneliness. I'm only 17, yes, but I have an intense desire to be married. I look at the young women around me and they aren't mature enough, and I can't support a wife anyways. I want to go to college. Anyways, I find myself seeking a wife. Every woman I meet I consider, and perhaps it's damaging my friendship with my sisters in Christ. I fear it may damage my relationship with God. Plus the loneliness is extremely unhealthy. I have all of this love stored within me and I have no object of my love. I long for the emotional and spiritual intimacy of a marriage. I understand what responsibilities marriage entails. I'm not concerned with sex. I don't want to get married to have sex, but I want to get married to become more like Christ, as marriage is like a refining fire, a mirror that shows you your sin that you hadn't seen before. It teaches you about your relationship with God, and together you can fulfill God's will on earth. It provides accountability, and kids! (yes, a 17 year old can want to be a father too) God said it is not good for man to be alone: Genesis 2:18 ESV Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” yet, in 1 Corinthians it mentions we ought not to seek to be married: 1 Corinthians 7:27 ESV Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be free. Are you free from a wife? Do not seek a wife. Then again Paul later mentions that if passions burn, then it is better to marry: 1 Corinthians 7:36 ESV If anyone thinks that he is not behaving properly toward his betrothed, if his passions are strong, and it has to be, let him do as he wishes: let them marry—it is no sin. I just don't know how right/wrong it is for me to seek a wife. I do not have a "betrothed", so I guess this verse does not apply to me. Prayer is always helpful and assurance as well. Please, if God has given you the wisdom to help me, please share. Also, I want to ask that this topic be discussed ONLY by mature Christians with a very good understanding of God and the Bible. I'm not interested in what "the world" has to say about this. Marriage is sacred.