Hi Christian Forum Site, Many of you might recognize me as having a few posts on my selfish and inconsiderate sister. She actions has taken another whole new level that has made me cornered and helpless. I JUST NEED TO TALK IT OUT through a short rant, comments welcomed. Warning 1: I'm a factual and empirical person. I have resorted to invading privacy to truly know the matter. You'll see. Warning 2: I'm controlling the harsh words I say. But please believe me, as a Christian, I've tried. Main point: My sister has not stopped her selfish, inconsiderate, ungrateful ways. This starts as a story of the accomplished brother who got a good education and money (US$6,000 / month) and the lowly sister, who is three years older!, who stumbled in her life and earns little (US$1,500 / month). What gives me the right to disapproved her? God forgive me. But when I know certain things, and when the family seems to continually enabling her, I literally am alone and lost. Update One: My mom still pays my Sister's credit cards. How I know? 1. I actually went through my Mom's sub card for my sister and her spending is just about US$1,500 / month. Backed up by how when my Auntie visited, my Auntie even convinced my Mom to let my sister learn the hard way, I'm convinced my sister has free cash from an elderly (Mom) to spend. Update Two: I've noticed my sister's spending happens and even in this hopeless, lowly, depressed situation, SHE STILL SPENDS and my Mom's supports her. I again saw ANOTHER of my Sister's itinerary forwarded to my Mom's phone where my Sister took a day touring an European city between her overseas assignment. I'm sure she didn't pay for it with her US$1,500 / month and she still have the nerve to just swipe another elderly's credit card for a fun time away from home. Oh, did I tell you she smokes and I'm saying that to add to the case that she spends. Update Three: Okay, my Dad was nice enough to buy each of us a car five years back. And now that my Dad is in financial trouble (READ: Dad financial trouble Sister enjoys herself in Europe), he asked me to sell MY car. Let me remind you that he actually approached my sister a year earlier to sell hers with the rationale that my sister can't afford to keep her car (YOU THINK?!) and her reply was "um ... okay ... um ... gimme next month" so he ended up asking me to sell mine, which I did. I'm for supporting my family, but don't you think siblings should share the burden and not have the one with the advantage (READ: my sister with my Mom paying her road tax and fuel) just drive around ignoring the situation. Update Four: The same situation - my Mom is considering give my sister the house because she can't make it in life, my Dad going back with his promise of paying for my Masters (guess where the money went), I doing the usual chores in the house. Bottom Line: If I do a quick sum, I feel this way because there has been and will be favoritism to someone who just doesn't understand any notion of care, concern and love. And in any family who practices fairness, I wouldn't live the dejected life I live now where someone's favoritism comes at my loss. When my mom is ill, who pays the bills? When my Dad needed cash, he couldn't draw on his reserves which he wasted on someone (literally wasted on a student who didn't graduate) and came to me. When thinking of my family's future, who work part time over and above his full time job while someone else watches TV. My sister was unemployed for three years. I guess my family assumes I'll be thriving in life, which I definitely wish I will. Sometimes I just want to tell my parents that they're only saying that because they don't want to face their terrible mistake of betting and then losing badly on someone else. A quick approximation is that my parents has given my sister close to US$40,000 and she has nothing to show for it. It's one thing to find help to buy something you need. It's another thing to find help to buy something (your 10th pair of shoes, a new phone, your monthly holiday) because the money just came from your parents and you don't care or have no idea of the financial difficulties now or that will come. God help me.