Man you so don't understand, i'm glad you don't too.. but really if you lived under an abusive father...you wouldn't be so easily saying that. The way you look at it is so fictional, not every father is loving, come back when you had someone treat you like complete $hit all your life and tell me how easy it is to love/respect them. Ever had your dad yell at you to keep working and then shovel dirt in your face when you were 5 years old and were crying because you were too tired to continue doing lawn work in the scorching sun for the past 2 weeks? Ever had your dad try to choke you to death and say he wanted to kill you because he was mad? Sometimes I wish people would know just so they could stop acting like it is so easy to just shake off a abusive relationship.