I was involved with a guy recently, meet in church, apparently a christian.... who turned out to be a complete creep, did not respect me as a person and basically trying to manipulate me into having sex with him for his own selfish needs. Even tho I made mistakes within the relationship regarding sexual activity, it's not what I want in a relationship. Anyway I have a friend i have like for the past 3 years, he is a lovely, decent christian guy, and since being involved with this other guy I have thought more about this friend, and how is such a decent man, who I love spending time with. I reckon he would respect me, care about me, support me, look after me more than this other guy ever would. I reckon he would be a good husband, and maybe that it what I am longing for, but I guess every girl wants that. The only thing me and the previous guy had between us was a sexual attraction, I was very much attracted to him physically and sexually and I have now released that was all it was. I kind of started to realise what is important for a marriage. The only thing is it has left me slightly confused, I really like this friend, even thought I loved him, I can actually imagine us together we seem to be great friends and he seems to care and do things for me, but it is a different kinda relationship than I had with this other guy, altho it is a good difference, I don't feel that sexual attraction. I am attracted to this friend in lots different ways, personality, the things he does, the way he speaks/says things and just generally things about him. I know i was not drawn to him physically at the start but then I started to like some things about him physically. Guess I am just confused wether what I feel is right, because it is different from what I felt about this other guy, It was such a strong sexually attraction I had a hard time not having full sex with him. altho I didnt feel happy at all with him. I liked that he was so touchy feely with me at times & always told me i was attractive! i Know this is not everything in a relationship. but he didnt want a real commitment with me, it was all fake & superficial. Just has left me so confused! and wether my feelings are real, or are we just great friends. What do you look for in a relationship and what do want/look for in you partner?