My girlfriend and I are both Christians, in our early 40's, but haven't been doing right. We've had sex several times. I'm a recovering sex addict. Magazines were my major setback. But in the las 3-4 months, I've been able, with God's favor, to put this sin past me. However, I don't feel like I've changed much if I still give in with our relationship. We talked with our pastor. He said in order to get married at our church, we need to put the sex away until the wedding day. I totally agree with him. She told me she agrees to disagree. That bothers me, although it lifts my spirits to know I've repented from yet another sexual sin (premarital sex). I feel so good, am so thankful that God hasn't dropped me off somewhere. I love her, but I'm surprised at how someone who knows the truth can only "agree to disagree" on something so important. I pray for her, and for God's will to prevail.