I am happy there is a thread like this I can post on, because I need advice from a Christian perspective. From people who know God's word. I am now at a crossroads in my relationship. I've been with my bf for almost 2 years. We are from 2 different cultures. I'm from the West. He's African. From the beginning he was different, but I gave him a chance because he was serious about God. However, from early on, he started trying to weaken me. Shake me from my foundation. Saying things like, "oh, because you have a Master's Degree, you think you know more than me? I know more about life than you do!" This would happen any time, I'd try to say my opinion or perspective and he'd disagree. I'm not perfect. I have made mistakes. I don't always have my story straight and I forget details. And because of the pressure he puts me under, I hide details, because i am afraid of how he may react. i can also be absent-minded. But I never have the intention to hurt him or anyone else. He also interrogates me a lot, so that makes me forget even more...cause I feel scared. Over time, it has just gotten worse. If I don't do or follow what he says, or say, "but" after him asking a question, or yell (which I don't often, only when I feel offended and I need to defend myself), He will say, "Are you arguing with me?! I don't need a woman to argue with me!! I'd rather have a woman who is mute and stupid and doesn't say anything than someone who will argue with me!!" He will quote Bible scriptures and say that a woman must be submissive. He is the authority over the woman. And he'll always try to speak in parables. He will tell me at times, that he will find a woman better than me. He feels I don't know as much as he does about the Bible. So he knows once he says something Biblical, I can't and shouldn't disagree. He stands talks over me and yells and it's actually scary. Recently, we were arguing when he told me that I was wasting my time in this country and that I don't love my parents! When I always cry to him all the time how much I miss my parents and not one day goes by that I don't pray for them and worry about them. And that I am over here trying to get experience to get the job that I want. Ive studied and worked here, volunteered, and got involved in and joined the church. I yelled; I was offended of course! After the argument, a girl called him at 2 am in the morning and he was talking all nice and flirty to her, while he ignored me and told me to get away from him. He was planning to go and sleep with her until I convinced him not to. Not for my sake, but so that he doesn't drift back into his old life of being a bad boy. And I am the chief editor of a religious book that was published, and I am one of the distributors. He got mad at me, and didn't want me to do it. And when I accepted anyway, he called me a stupid foolish woman. He'll always try to find fault in me. Even if we had a wonderful day and everything is fine, one thing will set him off and he'll be ready to break up with me. He has threatened to countless times. He is never accountable for his own actions. It's always my fault. Small things make him angry. So, I'm always walking on egg shells. He'll slam doors, hang up the phone on me. But If i do it, he gets upset. And forgets what he has done. He lives by double standards. I have tried to be there for him, when no one else was. When he got in a fight, I took him to the hospital. When he was sick, I went to the hospital with him and translated. I helped him find a manager. I took him out to buy groceries where the village he is playing in were against him, so that he wouldn't have to go out. We have prayed together even. But it doesn't make a difference. Now, he doesn't want us to talk about each other's days because he says I argue with him and dont do what he says. He says he has enough going on. So all we do is say, "Hi, how are you. Take care, and Bye.) This has been happening in the last couple of weeks. He says it is happening at the right time. And I shouldn't worry about it. He still thinks I am his gf, and that he loves me. But what is this love? For now he is nice...and the next moment he is mean and abusive. He'll listen to Christian music and pray and fast, but his behavior doesn't change. He will say, I will control you. He has serious anger management issues. He already knocked a guy's tooth out cause of a stupid issue (the guy pushed him first, though). He has been abusive in the past, and has cheated on every gf he has ever had, except for me (so he says). In church and in public, he is this nice guy who everyone sees as Godly. But with me and his team mates (He's a pro athlete) he is someone different. I realize he has come from a bad upbringing, but I feel increasingly down and depressed and I'm always second guessing myself. I don't know whether to stay or to go, if it is my fault or his. I have prayed, but I am not positive what step to take. Should I be more submissive? What do you all think? Thanks and blessings to you all!