I am currently living at a family friend' s house (while she lives in a different house, in a different city) I thought I was doing a good job of keeping the place clean. I am only here for 12 hours out of the day any way, and 8 of those are spent sleeping. I really didn't think I was causing a big problem but she and a friend came to visit, and i just got home and they were in a very angry mood. Apparently the friend was cleaning for the last 3 hours, and she was complaining about how her hands are all raw and her back hurts. the homeowner was in the other room. The friend pulls me aside and whispers about how i need to clean this and that and how the counter had crumbs on it, and how this other thing was filthy and whatnot. I was professional about it and said I would keep it clean. I put on a confident facade though I guess i felt embarrassed or something. I asked why she was whispering, and she said because they didn't want to "hurt my feelings" I said i could've cleaned it, and I felt bad because the friend was complaining about how hard she worked. I said she shouldn't have had to clean on her vacation and she said she didn't mind (right...so why complain). I held myself together and told the homeowner that I'm sorry if I have made it a mess, I thought I kept it clean and apologized and said i would've cleaned it. I guess I wasn't profuse enough (ha, this sort of goes to my other post about forgiveness). But they just went to dinner, and I am feeling very upset and near crying. I don't know, I guess I don't have a point in this post. But something about having the friend clean up this apparent mess that I made and then like not communicating with me directly... It just makes me feel uncomfortable. I would have totally cleaned up whatever mess. it sort of made me feel more weird that the friend cleaned for me and was going on and on about how much trouble it was. I mean if I am living in your house, maybe if you have a certain way you want things, you should tell me? Last time, she told me I can keep my bedroom messy if I want because it is my bedroom. Some of the stuff she cleaned I thought was pretty clean already.... so i mean clearly my "standard" of cleaniness is not high enough :-/ I told the homeowner i'm sorry and that I'd keep it clean from now on and asked how to clean certain things. Again I acted confident and cheerful about it, but I felt awkward. She said it's not a big deal and she didn't care that much (that SURE is not what the other woman implied) I mean I don't know. I guess I've been lazy, and I can tell already in writing this post that I'm starting to justify and get defensive. I guess my point here is to vent and to ask for some advice. I'm SO glad I found a place where I can do that. Later this week I will have my small group and I will talk to them about it. I don't want to be a nuisance or make her feel like I'm trashing her home... I guess it comes as more of a shock since I was going along thinking I was keeping the place pretty tidy. I suppose I wasn't.... :-/ I feel like I'm going to cry.. and it's not that my feelings are hurt... I guess it's more like I feel like I've let someone down. I feel stressed or something. Anybody know what it is?!