I Have Depression

Discussion in 'Marriage and Relationships' started by gianna.alexis, Mar 11, 2014.

  1. Hi people. I have had clinical depression (moderately severe) for the past 9 years. From my understanding, depression is due to lower levels of serotonin. Lately I noticed that the only thing that makes me feel happy is shopping. I read online that there is a link between depression and compulsive shopping because shopping increases endorphins in the brain. While I'm not a compulsive shopper, that makes sense. In the past, when I was in a relationship, I did not experience depression. My theory is that the "thrill" and "high" of being in a relationship produced enough endorphins to stave away the depression, though of course, the depression was still there when I became single. In fact, now I'm planning to stay single, so my only potential source of happiness is shopping.

    I find that I experience relief from my depression when I talk about fashion (specifically - what I might like to buy) because it allows me to engage in the topic. However, I don't often get an outlet. I feel like it would improve my mood if I could even talk about fashion for 15 minutes a day. However, this is easier said than done. For example, yesterday night I talked on the phone with my friend for an hour and I couldn't get a word in about fashion (or about anything, really, other than responding to what he was saying) and similarly, I chatted with a friend on Skype today and he just talked about himself and I responded, and before I could say anything about myself, he had to go. It's the same situation every time we talk, and we don't talk regularly, either.

    I'm so desperate for my "fix" of talking about fashion that I've considered sleeping with someone just to feel better for 15 minutes a day if they agree to talk about fashion with me, but I guess I'm hoping for a miracle.
  2. We are beings that were created with a need for unconditional all accepting love. The problem is that none of us can give this kind of love that we so desperately need because all of our love is conditional in some way. The only one who could give this love we need is the Messiah.

    When we forgive, someone pays the debt. And forgiving requires suffering. If someone breaks a lamp in someone's home, the owner of that lamp can say: I forgive you, I will replace the lamp. If he does, he suffers the debt, he goes without light in that part of the home. Or he can force the other man to pay the debt, somebody will always pay the debt. If we refuse to forgive, we are forcing the other to suffer for his action, we can sometimes even take pleasure in seeing the other pay the debt but if we do this, we are not really forgiving.

    This is exactly what the Messiah did for you and for me, He paid our debt. And if we read the accounts of Messiah's death it tells us that He was silent. What we don't have in this example is Jesus manning up and being a tough willed person, what Messiah showed to us is that He completely forgives us and gave us His all accepting, unconditional love in order so that we could become the beings he created us to become. Our problem is that we are so prideful that we are not willing to give up anything for others. The most valuable gift I ever received was not a sinless holy life (the more I try not to sin the more sin I do) but it is the desire to forgive others that don't want forgiveness. And that is all of us. Jesus prayed "Father forgive them for they know not what they do". We need to take that example of God's unconditional love for us and begin to learn how to give that love to others - Father forgive others for they know not what they do. What are you and I willing to place upon the altar? We need to yield ourselves upon the altar by being humble and forgiving others as Christ forgave us. If we do this, we can experience true joy and true peace and we can learn to give each other that kind of unconditional love even if its in just a small way. And as we grow we will learn to become servants of the Most High God.

    We have been freely forgiven by God.
  3. Did you know that salvation is absolutely free? and that we do not have to do anything to get saved? Well what do the Scriptures teach? Lets see.

    Well, John 3:16 is the most famous verse ever quoted in the world but I want you to see and hear what Jesus said just two verses earlier in verse 14 Jesus is pointing to a historical event to make a point about God's love.

    And as Moses lifted up the serpent in the wilderness, even so must the Son of man be lifted up; (John 3:14 ASV)

    The event happened when God led the Jews out from Egypt. As was their habit the people grumbled and sinned while out in the wilderness on their way to the promised land. God responds by judging and disciplining them and on this occasion God sent serpents into their midst:

    And Jehovah sent fiery serpents among the people, and they bit the people; and much people of Israel died. (Numbers 21:6 ASV)

    The people of Israel then do their normal thing - they ask Moses to pray for them for forgiveness from The Lord. Moses prays and God forgives them:

    And the people came to Moses, and said, We have sinned, because we have spoken against Jehovah, and against thee; pray unto Jehovah, that he take away the serpents from us. And Moses prayed for the people. (Numbers 21:7 ASV)

    God forgives the people but on one condition: Moses is to hold the serpent up for the congregation to gaze upon.

    Then the Lord said to Moses, "Make a fiery serpent, and set it on a standard; and it shall come about, that everyone who is bitten, when he looks at it, he will live." (Numbers 21:8 NASB)

    It was not how guilty they felt or how long they stared at it in the heat of the desert sun, it was simply the look of faith.

    And Moses made a bronze serpent and set it on the standard; and it came about, that if a serpent bit any man, when he looked to the bronze serpent, he lived. (Numbers 21:9 NASB)

    If they were hard hearted and stiff necked they died in their sins.

    Let's continue on now with Jesus's words:

    so that whoever believes will in Him have eternal life. "For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life. (John 3:15, 16 NASB)

    God has lifted up our object of faith, Jesus the Messiah on a cross. We are to humble ourselves, coming to the realization that personal righteousness and holiness is outside of our capabilities, and look to our God and Father who said:

    so that whoever believes will in Him have eternal life. For God did not send the Son into the world to judge the world, but that the world might be saved through Him. (John 3:15, 17 NASB)

    If we refuse to believe that salvation is by grace alone thru faith alone in Messiah alone plus nothing then we are not really believing on Him that was sent and are under the following judgement:

    so that whoever believes will in Him have eternal life. He who believes in Him is not judged; he who does not believe has been judged already, because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. (John 3:15, 18 NASB)

    If we have followed the teachings of any other variation from what the bible clearly states concerning the content of faith for salvation then you have accepted the accusation of other religions teaching concerning not only these simple words of Christ but all of the other passages of scripture concerning God's free offer of imputed righteousness.

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