I feel a bit foolish, coming here for marriage advice, but my husband (of 27 years) and I just had our first really angry verbal fight last night after seeing a religious-type movie he loved and I didn't. I had wanted to avoid seeing it, but yesterday, I decided I was not being fair and went with him. The movie itself was not the problem, so I really want to try to keep its name out of this discussion. Yes. my mind was already made up that I would not like the movie, so that was unfair to him. On the long ride home, he asked me what elements I didn't like, and I started naming them off. The things I named hurt him, because these were the very things that apparently meant a lot to him. Arriving home, we continued discussing it, until I was ready for bed. Only then did I realize how venomous the discussion had become. I put my hand up between him and me and told him firmly in a calm voice, "I don't want to argue with you. I don't want to argue with you." Turning my back to him, I went to bed. I was wrong, but I had no idea what to do. It had gotten ugly, and this was the first time that had ever happened in all the years we have been together . . . and believe me, we have been through some major STUFF because of our own actions as well as those of our four children from our two other marriages. We had always been calm, reasonable, and good to each other -- before. No, there was no swearing or yelling, we remained very civil, but we both knew that we had crossed the line. It shook both of us deeply, so we parted company. I didn't sleep well, and I am sure he didn't either. More later.