My girlfriend and I have been battling something for a few months now. On a side note, I’m 33 – she’s 27, we both have wonderful 5 year-old boys that are very close, we’ve been with each other for about a year and a half now… About 6 months ago, I recognized that I had a drinking problem and as a result, it had a damaging effect on our relationship, understandably. Between July-August, she began to discuss our problems with co-workers (a male & a female). The male began to open up to her about marriage issues between him and his wife ... Then they started with conversations that crossed the boundaries. He would complement her in how pretty she is, etc. and the female co-worker suggested that she get rid of me. To summarize things a little more, there was a time when she was lying about a lot of things, where she was, what she was doing … I asked her to just be honest with me and I will respect your honesty. To give you guys an idea, if there was one thing I would change about myself, it’s that I would wish that being lied to didn't hurt or make me feel the way it does … Sheesh, I’d rather get punched in the face! Since then, I have completely cut out alcohol and continue to attend AA and humbly remain sober! She has spoken to her boss about the male co-workers actions and both the female and male co-worker about how they crossed the line and how -WE- are working things out. I'm thankful that we are moving in the right direction! The male co-worker seems to have adjusted his behavior somewhat, but now there's something else that is eating at me and I'm not sure how to handle it? In the past, I would meet her for lunch since we work right down the street from each other. A few times I would even come in. She was happy to see me. She would hold my arm. She would also call me from her work line (not very often, but according to my call history - more than I thought!). Now, she isn't comfortable with me going in at all!? I feel that she is valuing her worldly colleagues feelings more than mine and I feel that she should continue to stand up and face this - on her end. I feel like a convict standing outside in the parking lot when I would normally walk in the building in the past ... This feeling is overwhelming and ripping us apart. Thank you and God bless! Mind you, both the co-workers are not believers. I’ve already seen the male and female and have been respectful and courteous. So, there should be no worry there…? When I ask what the reason is, she simply says, “I just don’t know?” It’s not that I MUST visit her at work … it’s just the principle of the whole ordeal. I used to be able to come in and visit her and now I must wait in the parking lot? It has me baffled and really hurts. I have prayed and sought after God to heal this over and over … I've asked her to be strong and be proud of me. Help & Thanks!