I'm 64, in my second marriage of 5 yrs. My first marriage of 38 yrs ended when my husband ran off with the neighbors wife. Now 8 yrs later they are married. I've been working hard at forgiving them. Our divorce was ugly as most of them are. I have been trying very hard to be a good Christian. My husband and I go to church every Sunday and I go to 2 Bible studies a week. I'm not happy in my marriage but I'm trying to make it work. Our marital problems are centered around the fact that my husband does not like my children because he feels like they have abused me and take advantage of me every chance they get. My 41 yr. old son won't have anything to do with me but I get to see my grandaughter, age 11 when ever I can but she is a 7 hr drive away so it doesn't happen very often. When I married I moved within 90 miles of my other 2 grandchildren, my daughter's children ages now 9 and 12. In 2009 my daughter left her husband and the children to marry someone else. I spent practically everyother week end with the 2 children, either at their house our mine. I was very disappointed, even mad at my daughter originally but I still loved her and I kept up a relationship with her. Last year her marriage ended after just 2 years and she is filing bankruptsy and is very mentally unstable plus we discovered that she has a prescription drug problem. My X, before we knew about the drug problem, bought her a car to drive, an old pick-up so she could pull her horsetrailer, which is the only possession besides the 2 horses that she can say she owns. He also bought her a place to live on 11 acres. Now he is realizing that he bit off more than he can afford; she hadn't even started her job which she probably can't even afford where she is living. He has teamed up with my son to guilt me into giving $5000 to help with some of the expenses they have taken on, such as getting the divorce, filing for bankruptsy, etc. I love my daughter and I say I would do anything to help her but I raised her, sent her to college and I try to help her out as much as I can. If I cash in some stock that I own, which will not be at a premium price, then I am taking away from my own security. My husband will be very upset with me because he will think that they are all just using me. When it comes to my family, I've almost felt like I was going to have to leave my husband as we just cannot agree when it comes to them and he is never going to change. I might need that money myself to have a place to live myself. I need help. Am I just thinking about myself? Am I wrong?