How can I make things better? Hello all I'm new to these forums and I needed some advice. Me and my husband have been together for almost 3 yrs but have only been married about a month now. Our relationship is very good overall but I'm afraid that I have done some things that I am not proud of and that I know is hurting us. In the past I have done some snooping on him and have found some things that have made my trust in him fade a little. Because of this I have become over time Really suspicious of his motives? I want to Trust him completely but I feel as though he is ignorant to certain things. His job keeps him away most of the time from home. He is gone about 2 weeks or more at any given time. My issues are with him communicating with his ex's. In the past I have caught him talking to them and To me it seems like they want to rekindle something?Again I found this out through snooping. I could be wrong but IMHO I feel like you shouldn't stay friends with any ex.I am trying to make things better for us now. I don't want to think about the past or treat him bad. When I get Jealous I have a very bad temper. I just feel like there are so many things that am doing that might damage our marriage. I am always the one to start fights. He is a very passive person and always takes things in stride. I on the other hand I'm very aggressive by nature. I feel like I want to change for the better I want to be a more kinder and sweeter wife to my husband, and I can be for a time before I fall back into old habits of Being mean to him and criticizing him all the time. I don't know what's wrong with me but I want to change for the better and not ruin our marriage.I know that God can change me for the Better but it's so hard and I just keep falling back. My husband has always had contact on and off with his ex-girlfriend. At first I was fine with it, but it soon became apparent that she was reminiscing and was still interested in him. She cheated on her husband with my husband, before we got together so I thought that the fact that they kept in contact was a bad idea. I told him to stop talking to her and he agreed. but I later found out that he tried to call her one more time. Finally he stopped all communication with her. I suppose that this left me feeling insecure. Later on there was another incidence with another ex of his. Again I found out about it and he said he just wanted to inform her about his mothers passing. This women also seemed to be still interested in him. After i got upset he cut communications with this ex as well. So now we are married and I love him very much but I feel as though he has betrayed my trust somehow and at the same time I feel like I am lashing out subconsciously for this which is why I treat him bad sometimes. I am a christian and love God with all my heart and have tried to pray about this situation and for him to make a positive change in me.