Let me say first of all that I am married and consider my –self a Christian. I am a sinner saved by grace. I think that the true Christian approach in America should be to accept gay marriage. Here is why. 1. Granting Marriage rights is a government role and not a religious role- The bible does not say that a government must grant special rights to married people. Therefore, recognizing and granting special rights to married people is a choice made within a society. The scriptures don’t command the government to do anything. 2. Heterosexual marriage is the second best option according to scripture. Paul says that a person should not marry and should serve God only. This is the highest option but for those who cannot do that marriage is given as a second choice. 3. Heterosexual married people are still sinners - Once a man and woman marry they continue to sin. You can go down a list of sins(greed, envy, lust, harmful speech, worldly desires etc.) and married men and women still commit them. 4. All sex with the exception of that which is specifically for procreation is lust – Married men and women have sex all the time purely for pleasure with no intent to procreate. This is a sin of lust. Lust is wanting and pursuing sexual desire instead of pursuing God. Whether it is a young couple on birth control or an older couple where the woman is past child bearing age, the great majority of sex within heterosexual marriages is only for gratifying sensual pleasures. So my point is that heterosexual married couples aren’t really deserving of special rights if you hold them to scriptural standards. Therefore, there ar e a few options that make sense in this light: 1. No special marriage rights for anyone heterosexual or homosexual. 2. Only grant special rights for married couples who have already procreated. 3. Since it is all so flawed and we are being overly generous by extending these benefits to all heterosexual couples why not just extend it to homosexual couples. Let me finish this piece with an analogy that makes my point. When I was growing up I had a neighbor who was over 50 and divorced. He remarried another woman who was close to his same age. They were both granted marriages licenses and all the special rights that come with it. The two loved and supported each other until a few years ago when he passed away. Today his surviving spouse continues to draw upon his benefits. Scripturally how was this marriage any better than a gay marriage? In both cases you would have supporting committed partners and in both cases you would have sex for only the purpose of lust. My point is we are all sinners and our marriage benefits are already overly generous. Married men and women don’t deserve special benefits. Then going on to ostracizing homosexuals because they are guilty of all the same sins heterosexuals make is cruel. Gay people are people and they can have beautiful relationships that benefit society. Giving them marriage benefits does not demean traditional marriage and family because it is already flawed to begin with. Judge not unless you are ready to receive judgment.