One thing I have trouble figuring out is the idea of forgiveness and the idea of recidivism. Suppose somebody hurts me, and I forgive them. And then it happens again. And again. I know that We hurt Jesus with our sins, and we ask for forgiveness and then go back and do it again. I know it's hypocritical for me to ask about this then. But my question is more along the lines of: how do we forgive yet not become a doormat? For instance, there's a person in my life I am not talking to. I try to tell myself I am over it. But I'm definitely avoiding them because I'm scared they will do it again and nothing has changed. I just don't know how to both forgive and not get taken advantage of or mistreated over and over again. I miss my friend but I am not in the mood to be treated like c$&p any time soon either. And also I tend to remind myself of the hurt they caused as a way to continue the hiatus. So that makes me feel like I haven't forgiven truly. But it's a coping mechanism /defense mechanism. When I forgave in the past it turned out that the person would just keep treating me in the same objectionable manner again. It just seems like the people who get mad and hold grudges and whatnot always end up "winning". And I'm always apologizing and forgiving. For once I want somebody to show they actually care about maintaining a relationship with me. Sorry that sort of trailed off topic there. My apologies.