I am in need of some wise counsel on my new relationship. I've been dating this wonderful woman for about 4 months now. As such, we've both been asking each other about our personal history and our pasts in the process of getting to know each other. While I am completely aware and believe that a person is not defined by their past mistakes and we all make mistakes, I have some concerns and fears about hers in our moving forward. My girlfriend was baptized when she was 9 years old, but got into a bad relationship which was on/off again for 8 years. During one of the periods when it was off again, she was what I would consider extremely promiscuous. To make matters worse, about two months before we met, she engaged in sexual activity with a man who she knew was married on two different occasions. This activity was also combined with heavy alcohol and marijuana use. She explained that, following that most recent episode, she was plagued with such heavy shame and guilt. She articulated that she reached rock bottom and terminated the relationship with the married man immediately. She says she was in a fog and became desperate to change her life for the better; that she was tired of feeling bad all the time. She says it was then that I came into her life. She says that I am the man of her dreams – the man she thought didn’t exist. While we’ve been dating only 4 months, she has not used marijuana, nor has she been intoxicated (I don’t mind an occasional alcoholic beverage with meals, but am against alcohol abuse). She and I have had many discussions over many hours talking about the identity of Christ, what authentic joy and happiness mean, what it means to have a healthy Christ-centered relationship, what we’re both looking at in marriage/family, and much more. I’ve been careful not to ask her leading questions. She seems authentic in her desire and intentions, but I can’t help but fear her past may be an indicator of poor future judgment. She seems to be displaying all of the signs which indicate she’s changed: guilt, remorse, admission, accountability, etc. I also believe it says something that she was completely honest and forthright to me about her past. She shows a guilty conscious and has even visited with a counselor/pastor friend of mine whom I visit on a regular basis to make sure I am always on the up and up and has opened up to him. My question / advice I am seeking is do I accept that people can and do change and that she is someone I can build a future with, or do I take her past (both recent and distant) as warning signs that she is not marriage / relationship material?