Hi, Trish. I know this is an older thread, but I am catching up on my reading them.
I was interested in both you and your husband being worried about your children. I noticed no one addressed this, so maybe I am wrong on what I am about to say. I seem to have the idea that children the age of accountability (whatever that is), will be the only ones not taken in the Rapture. Therefore, depending on how old your children are, you should maybe not be worried about them having to endure the Tribulation. I am a believer that God will take us up in the Rapture before the Son of Perdition is known.
Also, keeping in mind that this is probably a mental disorder, if you can get him to see how this is affecting his children, not having their daddy around to influence them and be with them, maybe it would help. My dad was so distraught over the death of his 5-year old daughter (my twin), that he spent most of his time out in the barn with his Southern Comfort bottle. It put distance between his remaining children and I never really knew my dad because of it. Do you think he realizes what his actions are doing to his children at this present time? Maybe he should worry about that instead of what may not even come to pass.
I'm not trying to be mean spirited here, just wondering if he has thought about that at all. I know satan has him where he wants him and is using fear to keep him there, but God also wants him in dependance on Him and is longing to wrap him in His loving arms and renew his mind to that of Love and peace. Fear is a very tricky thing to handle. I had fear most of my life until I met Jesus, and even after that, fear swells up inside me when I think about the future. But, I try to just live for today and not worry about the future, which I'm sure is very hard for your dh.
I also sympathize with your feelings of being trapped with someone who needs so much mental attention. It would be so good if you could form a support group, or join one to help you deal with this mental illness. Also, since you have a good church, hopefully your pastor is aware of your situation and you need to lean on his advice because you are reaching out right now and feeling in need yourself.
Something has to chance, I detect, else you will also come crashing down. Somehow, I detect that you are not revealing the whole truth about the stress you are feeling because you are a strong person and think you can surely handle it. I will pray for strength for you sister and that Heavenly Father will hold you up and give you what you need to carry on. Depend on him, Dear, to give you strength and know that He has a solution for all our dilemas. Peace to you, Sister. :groupray: