Does True Love Wait? I have heard seperate opinions that differences in sexual experiences doesn't matter when it comes to marriage and that a virgin can be yoked together with a non-virgin. That this would be something for the virgin to pray past and that they should not have it as a criteria in their spouse. Is this a correct viewpoint that differences in sexual histories that are so extreme is just something that should be prayed past and dealt with through counseling? Some advice from married couples was that it took several years for the spouse who came as a virgin to forgive his wife especially when difficulties came up in the marriage. Another time I heard from a engaged couple where the woman had experience but the boyfriend was as pure as the driven snow and had difficulty with her hiding her past. As for myself I think it has been hypocritical for men who have had several girlfriends to insist on a virgin spouse but now that the tide has turned and there are now apparently some men who have listened to the true love waits teaching and they are now growing up. However all the women I've talked to in real life state that if you come to the marriage as a virgin then you should marry another virgin who also waited. I also have talked with a woman who married a virgin even though she had a boyfriend before the marriage, they later divorced. Now this is the reversal for in the past it was the woman who was a virgin but did not care if her spouse was so much, now it is the man who often has waited and is being encouraged to not have it as a marriage criteria. What is the parameters to make a choice like this? I ask for myself- I bought into the True Love Waits (and you will eventually find the exact one who also waited for you) propaganda but it appears many christians who accept True Love Waits abstinence teaching are just as happy to find someone who didn't wait for marriage. It has sort of negated my feelings about promulgating this teaching. What are your thoughts? What are the parameters to make this a criteria for marriage or not?