My husband of three years slept on the couch for the first time last night. This stems from a fight we had when i told him i want to go visit my sister. I have 4 weeks vacation a year. Two weeks i already committed to him to spend with. His family who live abroad. I told him this a few days after his family had spent a period of over a month in a half with us and his response was that he wants to spend the remaining of vacation time with his family necause it is his moms birthday. I got so fed up of his needs always coming first i wrote him a six page letter telling him upset and unloved i felt because. he never stops to think about me or what i might like or need. He read it and told me we needed to talk but that in the meantime not to cook for him or do anything for me. That he needed to think that hw was going to be sleeping in the couch and not to have visitors(meaning my family). His argument is that since his family lives abroad He needs to spend every moment with them. My sister lives on the opposite side of the country my parents three to fours hrs from here. Now i am just wating until he feels like we should talk. We do and live life his way. A complete turn around from the man i met 11yrs. Ago.