Ok, I am interested in someone my cousin dated. I never knew her when they did date (which was not long) He never introduced her to the family or at least his parents. I met her out in town. We clicked instantly. It would take too long to get into the details in how we click. I have dated other girls, even engaged to one, but I can say I never clicked like this on so many fronts with someone. She loves the Lord, has the same mission, loves people and has the same sense of humor. She and him dated briefly and had sex. She ended it 7 months ago. Yes I see how that is odd, and I would not want to be in this position. But I also don't understand why the Lord would allow is to meet randomly and the areas she is weak she knows I'm strong, and I see her heart and though I have not slipped in that area of the physical in my walk really, I still see her genuineness and brokenness and want to be more that way too. I can only say she has all the major things I want in a woman, plus the little toppings that God did not have to throw in with anyone. Every time we talk it is usually for hours or at least no more than 3 minutes of silence if that. I have been in prayer for a wife, and even had friends praying and one asked for specific hair color. I said that was not important and than 2-3 hours later I said red hair and green eyes. Well she is everything in a woman I love. The woman I wanted but no one else had all these things that I have dated before, but they were nice and good girls. And she has red hair and green eyes. I have told a guy friend the details of our friendship and he understands the awkwardness, yet knows I have never talked about another girl like this. (actually 2 good buddies noticed that). I have been praying and do plan to seek counsel. I can say that common sense says no, as well as the bro-code, but I also do not want to regret not trying. The last thing I want to do is hurt my cousin, though he didn't treat her that well. She knows this is consequence for her sin and she is so sorry. She said she'd be willing to apologize to him and any family members. I figure if I was to pursue her there may be backlash, or gossip.... Trust me this is really one of the hardest things I have have been confronted with. College, car, etc choice never this intense. Thank you for you humbled replies. God Bless!!!